I was wondering about this. When i see a cute person walking across the street or something i believe that i can see them as beautiful and say to myself "They sure are cute" without having sexual thoughts, or even getting close to sexual thoughts. I was wondering if you guys believe you can do the same or even believe that its possible.

Simple as that can you see someone as beautiful and not lust?

Yes, it's possible. It happened to me just this summer.

There was a new girl on the summer camp staff and she is just the cutest little thing. She's too cute to even think about sexually.

Sweet girl too.

Very much so. I would say a majority of the girls I know I would say are beautiful, and that doesn't mean I'm attracted to all of them.

Every day.

This post has been edited by Cactus: Aug 2 2009, 01:21 AM

All the time... I like beauty; I don't do lust...

Yes, a perfect example would be when a heterosexual person sees beauty in a person of the same sex, but is not attracted to him or her. The same for a homosexual person who sees beauty in someone of the opposite sex but, again, is not attracted.

Yea thats what i would agree with, but then on the Men's forum is filled to the brim with topics of lust and such.

Everyone has strugles... mine would be love for violance and excessive pride...

This post has been edited by Kozunaki Silen: Aug 2 2009, 02:40 PM

oh yeah, to make myself more open and outgoing, I tell every girl I talk to whom I think is a beautiful child of God, that she's a beautiful child of God. lol

maybe not be the best way but I don't have to lust over them.

Well, for me, if I lust over them I don't recognise their beauty.

I usually don't lust unless the attractive girl wears skimpy clothing.

I definitely think we can (and should) appreciate our beautiful sisters! =) It makes sense to me that a brother would be proud of the way his sister looks, and have his day brightened by her presence and smile.

I think that beauty reveals a lot about the One who made it. This is true of all kinds of beauty (nature, architecture, etc)...but women are sort of the Grand Finale of God's original creation, and I have seen many attributes of God physically reflected in the faces of His daughters. (So for instance, pausing to appreciate the gentleness of somebody's eyebrows helps me to understand that God is gentle, and praiseworthy for being so gentle...and also that I have a kind of strange focus on eyebrows ).

Well yes it is possible, but for me I know it can be hard at times. Honestly, there are a lot of beautiful girls that I do and don't lust after, I can have a hard time fighting off the lust at times though. I don't really know, lust is something I struggle with on a major scale, it's a confusing topic.

...and all the beautiful bunnies and flowers and unicorns and rainbows...

Yes, but very rarely.
If you are really straight, you will find a woman that you think as beautiful to be sexually attractive. Unless she is your sister, of course.

"treat the younger women as sisters"
1 Timothy 5:2





As to unicorns, if you're going to laugh at a cross between a warhorse and a rhino, I won't stop you -- but I won't stand between you. o_O

Isn't admiring someones beauty where you go "She looks nice."
Doesn't lust mean, "I wish I could have sex with her."

BIG DIFFERENCE!

It's pretty difficult not to let my immaturity shine and honk as I drive by sometimes.

But I can appreciate beauty without lust.

It's such a beautiful thing when a girl is wearing her sundress on a sunny day, I adore the bright colours.

Yes, I can look at many girls without lusting. I love looking. <3

Yes. Looking at a girl and admiring her beauty is actually ok. But when you begin to think sexual thoughts about her, that's when its wrong.

There is a girl I know, she has the most beautiful face and pretty eyes, I don't even look at her in a sexual way I just think she is so beautiful

I agree with the idea that Beauty and Lust are 2 different things, and yes i can look at a woman and think she is beautiful and even be attracted to her but not lust.

I agree with a lot of what is being said here you can consider a woman beautiful but not lust after her. The reason sometimes I think that it might be seen right off the bat as a bad thing is more of a warning to other Christians because a lot of the time lust is a hard thing to fight. Just make sure you are always aware of yourself and pray if you're having problems with lust.

I personally don't even think that's possible. As long as you have any heterosexual desires as a guy(which you should, duh!), then finding some girl beautiful/cute/hot/attractive/whatever, is nature's way of telling you that you should have kids with that person. To put it differently(and more boldly), I'm sure there are girls that you would never find in any way attractive. Could you think of some 80 year old woman as attractive in any way? When you see a 5 year old kid and you think its cute, and you see a girl thats 20 and you think shes cute(yet as you say, you don't lust), is that the same kind of cute?

Maybe there are times that you don't get the lust "feeling". Sure, thats possible, but I think it still is lust.

It's a false dichotomy really. The same goes for friendship and any sort of romance; there's an eroticism that permeates our very being in anything and everything that we do. These are words that we use to attempt to force a clear and definitive separation between the two concepts and as such they offer the only possibility for describing the experiences of "beauty" and "lust" but it's important to remember that it's not quite so simple, it never has been and never will be.

Josh

Agreed.


You come across as pansexual.