Online Relationships, what do you think about them? |
Nov 5 2009, 11:02 AM
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What do you think about having an online relationship, meaning a relationship over the internet where the couple has never met in person before? Are you for or against them? Please give your reasons why ^ ^
I'm in one and so far its going beautifully, but I also heard that most online relationships, especially long-distance ones (which is the majority of them and the kind i'm in right now) don't last. I've been together with my boyfriend for a little over a month, and I was friends with him for two months before then. We met randomly on an rpg website (we iz major dorks..) and started talking in private chat, and when i felt like i could trust him, video chat. He's a really good friend, and is everything I was looking for in a boyfriend; kind, funny, caring, loves God, etc... We've both talked about our standards/expectations/priorities and they match up almost perfectly, and we're both committed to the relationship. Everything seems to be right except for the distance and the fact that his family doesn't really know me (most of my family members/sister& brothers are friends with him actually.. i met him thru my sister ^ ^). We're meeting in a couple of months. Originally, we'd planned on waiting until we met to get into a relationship, but it just didn't feel right to look for other people while I was waiting to meet him, and now we're already talking about going to college together (he'd come down to my state in 2 years). Do you think we're making the right decision, or are things going too fast? I want to hear your thoughts because both of our parents are constantly saying "you haven't even met each other!!!" Also, has anyone else been in an online relationship? |
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Nov 10 2009, 10:02 AM
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![]() Mrs. CTF ![]() Group: Retired Staff Posts: 6,258 Joined: 25-May 07 From: Bristol Member No.: 11,477 Gender : Female Name : Emily |
As long as you plan to meet each other and make it a priority to spend time actually with each other and as long as that's feasible. There's a difference between an online relationship and a long distance relationship. In LDRs, you actually meet up with each other. Online relationships miss out on a huge aspect of a relationship. An essential one at that.
I wouldn't advise anyone to take a relationship really seriously until they've experienced all necessary components of it, which includes being with each other. If you like someone online, then great, feel free to express it and plan to meet up with them. But don't think that means you know everything you need to in order to confirm yourself in a long term, serious and functional relationship destined for a committed future ahead. Relationships are part of life's experiences, and experiencing relationships with people 'IRL' is essential; romantic partner or otherwise. |
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rokcndy Online Relationships Nov 5 2009, 11:02 AM
Glamour_Dollxoxo I think its fine if the two people plan to meet, b... Nov 5 2009, 05:45 PM
afriendlyatheist online relationships don't exist. Nov 5 2009, 06:01 PM
Jarius245 It's possible to make them work, although in m... Nov 5 2009, 06:24 PM
Eclipse QUOTE (afriendlyatheist @ Nov 5 2009, 08... Nov 5 2009, 08:15 PM

Xx_Light_Of_Twi_xX QUOTE (Eclipse @ Nov 5 2009, 08:15 PM) Ne... Nov 9 2009, 08:11 PM
winterlong QUOTE (afriendlyatheist @ Nov 6 2009, 12... Nov 7 2009, 03:53 AM
BreatheYouIn I met my boyfriend, Peter aka Eclipse on here, on ... Nov 5 2009, 08:07 PM
Adonvara I've heard lots of cases - including the ones ... Nov 6 2009, 02:34 PM
~ChasingmyDreams~ QUOTE (afriendlyatheist @ Nov 5 2009, 06... Nov 5 2009, 08:24 PM
afriendlyatheist QUOTE (~ChasingmyDreams~ @ Nov 5 2009, 09... Nov 6 2009, 09:12 PM
Danjor Online relationships work if you want them to work... Nov 5 2009, 09:11 PM
heychicky818 Eh. I think they are... hard. I mean, I personally... Nov 5 2009, 09:27 PM
Comeuppance They're hilarious. Nov 5 2009, 09:29 PM
Jarius245 QUOTE (Comeuppance @ Nov 5 2009, 08:29 PM... Nov 6 2009, 09:08 PM
rokcndy lol thanks for all of your answers so far! i... Nov 6 2009, 03:39 PM
horsesforlife I see nothing wrong with them, but I do know that ... Nov 6 2009, 03:41 PM
ShadowOfGrace Eh, I'm not completely sure I agree with onlin... Nov 6 2009, 04:50 PM
Faithful Kevin Personally, I think if you meet someone online, it... Nov 6 2009, 09:23 PM
~ChasingmyDreams~ QUOTE (afriendlyatheist @ Nov 6 2009, 09... Nov 7 2009, 01:02 AM
mintchocochip QUOTE (~ChasingmyDreams~ @ Nov 6 2009, 10... Nov 7 2009, 11:38 PM
rokcndy He isn't coming until next summer...... Nov 7 2009, 05:58 PM
Comeuppance I wanna be your Phonefriend!!! Nov 7 2009, 11:46 PM
mintchocochip Noo.... we could have a text relationship and be T... Nov 8 2009, 12:03 AM
MrSugar Had a few, they didn't work out. I still think... Nov 8 2009, 12:34 AM
Blue Steel Never had one but I wouldn't ever be able to l... Nov 8 2009, 12:59 AM
mintchocochip QUOTE (Blue Steel @ Nov 7 2009, 09:59 PM)... Nov 8 2009, 06:50 PM
Blue Steel QUOTE (mintchocochip @ Nov 9 2009, 12:50 ... Nov 9 2009, 04:19 AM
BreatheYouIn I fall for personality, and talking to Peter over ... Nov 8 2009, 09:55 AM
Samuel w Oh,
hmm.
Personally i'd never get into one,
I... Nov 8 2009, 06:15 PM
heychicky818 To be honest, I'd be paranoid the whole time. ... Nov 8 2009, 06:23 PM
Comeuppance I think the paranoia would be a problem in any rel... Nov 8 2009, 06:47 PM
rokcndy They are definately hard, but when it's worth ... Nov 8 2009, 07:37 PM
~ChasingmyDreams~ QUOTE (mintchocochip @ Nov 7 2009, 11:38 ... Nov 9 2009, 10:28 AM
Brekat I think...that they could work. I don't think ... Nov 9 2009, 11:38 AM
Unconservative Christian Once you join an online dating website, or have an... Nov 9 2009, 11:45 AM
BreatheYouIn ^I'm marrying my "online" boyfriend ... Nov 9 2009, 03:30 PM
~ChasingmyDreams~ Haha Steph, we fail together. Nov 9 2009, 07:34 PM
beachbabe_266 Okay, so my relationship with Justin has NEVER bee... Nov 10 2009, 02:19 AM![]() ![]() |
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