okay, so, it all started when i was about 14. every once in awhile, i would get this weird feeling...an urge in my mind and i dunno almost a tightness in my chest...over time i began to call it the "boyfriend" urge...its where i get the overwhelming feeling that i need a boyfriend or a guy of some sort around me...over the past year i havent had it at all...and let me tell you...it was possibly the biggest stress reliever i could have ever had.
ive been going through life changing stuff for the past year, too, though, that could have distracted me from any of that...and as of now, i have NO social life...its all schoolwork and staying at home...but over the past two days, ive found this feeling is back...and i hate it! now i just feel like moving FAR away and starting all over again-but that's not an option. so...just wondering...advice? anyone else ever get this feeling???

Yea i know exactly what you mean... its apart of growing up though, its a normal biological thing unfortunatly. That said God did create us this way, to need relationship..best advice I can offer you is just look to God to help you thorugh it He will not fail fail you as im sure you know. Also if its at all possible try and get in to some social situations..we all need friends and its a good realise from the stresses of life to do life with people.

Two cents over lol, will be praying for you xx

I agree. I do get this, especially recently I've been getting it a lot, as it's getting closer and closer to a year since my ex and I broke up.

Just keep praying and rely on God to be the man you want in your life until it's His time to bring one for you. Stay strong, it'll be soooo worth it.

Hey, lol its my first post!
I know exactly what you mean, i have no idea what to do either. Im 18 and have never been on a date. The guys that ask me out i KNOW will be unhealthy for me, all non christians, all would become bad situations. I know God is in control of everything and it always makes me wonder why this is particularily happening. I feel ridiculously behind and ridiculously inferior and i have to keep reminding myself God is doing this for a reason, and am just hoping He does have some guy waiting for me to date...eventually..someday....

HAHA, let me tell you this. I REALLY like this guy rite now. Every time we talk, the smallest word to describe it is happiness, but the biggest word to describe my feelings is MORE than words can describe. Its the best feeling in the world when i get to talk to him. But, i have been through rejection quite a few times, that im not willing to get hurt again, so, im waiting for him to get the hint or to find out if he likes me too...for a fact!!! Well, lately i have been DESPERATELY wanting a boyfriend, and for him to be "mine" and still hoping. When i get stressed out, i get nauseas and i can't eat a lot, yet i get SOOO hungry. So i eat and i feel better, then 5 minuets later i get nauseas again and its just a big cycle. Well, im stressed out over this situation, so of course i am gonna get nauseas...but on top of the nausea, i get butterflies just thinking about him, so that doesn't help at all. But, all i do is pray. Pray that my pain goes away, that i see something to tell me if he isn't the rite one so i'll stop thinking about him, or if he is, just wait.<<<if that makes any sense...(it does to me :/) And i just keep praying everynite in hopes something will happen the next day. So, that's the only thing i can say, PRAY

SOOO TRUE Y SOMETIMES SUFFER FROM THE BOYFRIEND URG but then i remeber that i dont need mans love but i have gods love which is bigger than mans and i feel better

I think everyone has at one point or am other I think you just need to realize that God is the number one. So it shouldn't matter, and try to remember that God has someone out there for you.

Best way to deal with this is to stay busy. Get a job,take up knitting,something.


I speak from experience.


I posted on a really old thread. :3

I've been getting the boyfriend urge off and on for a few years now. It's really bad this year because prom is coming up in a few months.



I can totally relate! I'm the same age and I haven't ever been on a real date (Jr High dates don't count). I know I could get a boyfriend if I really wanted to, but it would mean doing stuff I'm not comfortable with like wearing more revealing clothing and..um..more physical things. I don't really have any advice, except to just hang in there and to pray!

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But me, the poster child of anti-romance might be getting the boyfriend urge too... Especially considering that my best friend has one (I feel like I'm talking about an accessory O_o). Of course, watching her example, at times I'm just grateful NOT to have one. XD It would make my life sooooo much more complicated.

Hmmm... knitting... There's an idea Becky!
Wait...
Actually, that just might work! And I know I have some knitting needles and a pathetic excuse for a scarf I've been working on somewhere. I wonder... how about every time I wish I had a boyfriend, I knit for a while? Then when I actually get one, I'll give him the resulting scarf!!!
^This is what happens when lack of sleep is combined with Halloween candy. O_o Ignore my rantings and ramblings! XD

I think we all go through those stages sometimes where we feel like we simply cant be alone and have to be with someone. Just remind yourself that you are single right now for a reason, when its the right time to be in a realtionship the right person will come along, dont rush into anything for fear of being alone. As people have said, take up a hobby! you never know you could meet someone if you join a group or a team

I've never had a general "boyfriend urge." Sometimes I've been lonely, but never to the extent that I just felt I needed a boyfriend then. Different story with specific people I liked, though. Haha.

I find having Christ as my true priority causes contentment and joy in other areas of my life, like in relationships. I've learned patience, and I've learned how to be satisfied with friendship until the appropriate time.

So yeah.

I've felt a Choco Urge...Or a Gorey/scary movie urge...

I've had it before, but honestly, God is my number one priority. Not saying that having a boyfriend isn't nice, because it's wonderful, but God is still my number one.

Never would have thought of taking up a hobby...good advice, along with what Rachel said.

~Dee

Love isn't born of desperation or convenience. The best thing I can do when I'm going through what you just described, is remind myself of God's promises. He makes all things beautiful in His time and He won't withhold any good thing from those who walk with Him. Hold out for that one special guy. Don't settle for anything less.

i think we all get it, but we should fight it off. we dont need a guy to be happy, even if its nice to have someone

(I should really finish reading everyone's post on this)
I say make yourself very busy, and push yourself more to getting closer with G-d.
It works wonders, plus you feel ever so positive. ^-^
(I think that's what some people already said)

This post has been edited by DestinationShadows: Dec 1 2009, 08:33 PM