So my friend loves this one college. Its the only one shes applying to next year, which is her senior year.

Her boyfriend on the other hand is graduating this year. He likes this one college, but he also likes a lot of other colleges he's currently getting into. But if he or anyone else so much as mentions him going to these schools she shuts them down, in a "joking" manner, of course. But we all know she really isn't joking. She thinks they're getting married, but she isn't considering that he'll have to be at this school a year before she gets there. I think he should be praying about what school he should be at and considering which schools will give him the best opportunities, while she should be letting him she'll support him no matter where he goes and she'll try and make it work. That she won't just dump him the second he chooses a different school. But she's not. Which makes me wonder if I should say something to her or just let it go? It was fine when she was "just kidding" months ago, but now that he's getting acceptance letters, the pressure's really on, and I think she should either be supportive or shut up. But maybe it's not my place to get involved in her relationship at all... what do you think? any advice?

This post has been edited by voy_a_seguir_te: Nov 6 2009, 10:56 PM

Are you a really close friend? If you aren't really close, I don't think she'd take the advice very well. If you are close friends, don't try to tell her in a manner that "you know best", but just concern for her. She sounds like she's insecure about the relationship lasting. Ask her about that, if she needs to talk about it. Don't just tell her she's wrong,but offer her a listening ear to explain why she's acting that way.

I don't know if I'd say we're close, but we've been friends since we were little kids.

I don't think she's really insecure about the relationship lasting, I think she just really cares about him and wants him near her, which is understandable. What I'm thinking is that they're only in high school, neither of them really needs to be putting this relationship above their dreams, but that's what she's asking him to do.

What is she doing exactly? She's not trying to convince him to not go to the school he wants to attend, is she? D:

She pretty much is, in a very passive-aggressive "joking" sort of way. Like he'll say "I got into school A!" and she'll say "Way to go! But you still want to go to School B, right?"

This post has been edited by voy_a_seguir_te: Nov 12 2009, 08:15 PM

I don't really see how what she is doing is effecting you, other than annoying you perhaps. I don't think that is a good re reason however to say something about it to her.

That's what I was thinking. It's none of my business. But I really hope they don't break up because she pressures him to go to this school and he resents her for it. They are so good for each other.

all you can really do is be there as a friend and see what happens if they split up then youre there for the both of them although it may seem hard for them both im studying at university whilst my fiance is in another part of england about 400miles away from me it is hard but i do hope they work out
just be there for them both if she asks your advice then tell her dont just burst it out