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    Music | R&B, Jazz, Hip Hop, Classical, Rock, Native American | Songwriting | Dancing | Spoofing (ask if you don't know) | Trying to cook | Trying to act | Writing (novels, poetry, rhymes) | Flowers | Movies| Books |
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    Guys Wearing Skinny Jeans

    I can't stand it, lol.
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    Courtship?

    Courtship is pretty much a "getting to know you" process with the goal being marriage. It involves accountability (meaning it's not exclusive and "do it yourself" as dating is), usually by means of a pastor or older married couple walking with you through it. The parents are usually involved for accountability as well. I don't think this means they're breathing down your necks, per se, but they aren't shut out of the relationship and, most importantly, they have given their blessing to you. Also, in a courtship the guy will ask the girl's father for his blessing from the start. He won't just start a relationship without a blessing. If the girl doesn't have a father in her life, then he will seek the blessing of her pastor (whomever is covering her spiritually). If she doesn't have a pastor, then he would probably go with the blessing of her mother. Compromising situations are a no-no. That's the point of the accountability partners. I'm not saying that the couple never goes on a date where it's just the two of them, but they make a point to have people who can hold them acccountable and there are guidelines set on what's okay and what isn't. Purity and temptation aren't taken lightly in a courtship. There might also be prayer and fasting before the courtship is started--to seek God's will on the relationship. There is also prayer during the courtship, and the two individuals should be ready spiritually (and some would debate financially) for marriage. So all in all, the major difference between courting and dating is that courting is not a casual relationship with no real goal set--no "we might get married, we might not, we'll see" mentality. Courtships are intended to lead to marriage and might include pre-marital counseling (usually with a pastor). I hope that helps!
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    Hip/Hop

    *Smiling at the replies* A good friend of mine is also a femcee and we collab every now and then. As others have said, it's not questions of whether women can or can't rap. Whatever sells is what you know of. I'm sure 99.9% of the members of this forum haven't heard of the femcees I noted in my post because they simply aren't part of the mainstream garbage *cough*--I mean, music you hear on the radio and what not. Mainstream rap such as Soulja Boy and Lil Mama is stuff that's geared to get stuck in your head. There's no real depth to it. Just party/pop music. But that does NOT represent the rap genre. If anything, it disgraces it. Dig beneath the surface and do some investigating if you're unsure or interested in hearing from godly female rappers. I know you guys are mentioning and giving props to socially conscious and positive rappers as an argument, but as I said, it gets even better because there are Christ-loving women who use rap and hip hop to preach the Gospel. They aren't corny and can compete with the best, if they chose to. But they do it for ministry. Again, a major label/ministry promoting these women (and men) is the Yuinon. Check out their myspace or something because I guarantee you'll be surprised and blessed. I'm working on doing a track on a friend's compilation CD soon, as well. I also have a song of my own that I'm hoping to record. Es muy posible con Dios!
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    Once saved, always saved?

    Once saved, always saved. Last time I checked, Jesus's sacrifice was enough. Either you accept that sacrifice or not.
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    Hip/Hop

    Yes, because I am one, lol. Instead of an "emcee," I call myself a "femcee." I don't do secular rap, though. I rap the Gospel and positive issues, etc. All for Christ's glory. Anyway, there's a whole movement going on called "Holy Hip Hop"--mainly in Detroit and Philly. There are plenty of Christian female rappers, such as Light Tha Flow Minista, Mahogany Jones, M.O.C, Blaze, and the list goes on. (There are also many underground/undiscovered female rappers out there.) The Yuinon is a ministry that puts out mixtapes featuring these ladies and others. We need MORE female rappers to go forth and reach girls who are into hip hop and spread the Gospel. (And I've never heard Mary or Alicia rap a verse in my life, lol. They are singers, not rappers.)
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    Evil Elmo!

    What is this, "The Omen?"
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    american idol

    I'm a little disappointed with this season, though. I haven't been...moved yet, I guess. It's not as funny as least season and the talent (what they've broadcasted to us, that is) doesn't seem to be as good, to me. But I guess it's still early on... I'm hoping it will get better. I haven't found anyone who just stands out yet. And at this point and time last season, I was already seeing possible winners. Disappointing.
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    so you think you can dance

    I've loved that show since season 1. I can't wait for it to come back and erase my memory of "Dance Wars." Ugh...
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    those half-jackets

    Yeah, I have a couple. I have a demin one and a black and white camo one. They're cute. I like popping one collar, though.
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    Love....

    As long as God exists, love is real.
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    Why do guys do this?

    I feel you. The same thing happened to me. It hurt, and I felt/feel stupid about it and as though I should accept most of the blame for giving into it all and allowing myself to be tricked. Anyway. I try to avoid flirting altogether and treat all of the guys I know as my brothers. I don't want to fool anyone else through the mask of flirting as I myself was fooled and hurt. Whenever around a guy, I try to keep the mindset that, if God hasn't planned for him to be my husband, then I don't have the right to say or do anything to him since he a) belongs to God and not me B ) might be another woman's future husband. To me, flirting is all about temptation and toying with yours and someone else's God-given sexuality. You do it mindlessly, without thought, and all for the purpose of tempting them to do or say something that will gratify you--to see how far they can go. Anyone who has flirted before knows that it's all a game, and this kind of game can be dangerous. I guess you could say that I act as though the every guy I meet is a married man--taken. And would I flirt with a married man? Would I play a sexual game with someone who doesn't belong to me?
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    over emotinal type..

    I sort of agree. I just want a balance. I think anyone who says that you can't cry and be a man or whatever is ridiculous, etc. At the same time, I need someone who can rely on Christ's strength in any situation. He has to protect me and our family. He's got to make me feel safe and secure, either way. That doesn't mean he can't be emotional, but he can't let his emotions rule over him, just as I can't let mine rule over me. He should be reasonable, but mainly humble before the Lord. A Christ-like balance is what I want. Not a perfect guy, as no one is perfect, but someone who is pursuing Christ and being the head of his family in humility, strength, conviction and honor.
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    What a lad wrote bout girls

    Lol, if you are a cynic, then so am I. I wouldn't call it unrealistic, myself, but more-so...generic and, as you said, playing into what girls want to hear. Not that a guy wouldn't say it/think it, but that it would serve its purpose better when spoken between two parties and not over a massive social network. Anyway. I think it's an okay piece of writing. I've seen it before on myspace. I guess I just don't really...how should I say this...take this stuff personally. I'm the type that prefers a personal/original note rather than Hallmark, lol. I guess I can only truly believe what someone feels about me when they say it from their own heart. Either way, I'm sure this would touch me if it were coming from a guy to me, and not over myspace as a general message to whomever it concerns. *Shrugs* Please don't get me wrong or think that I'm saying you all are wrong for loving this. It's just that I myself don't take these things to heart unless it's coming from a guy talking/writing to me. I want to hear this kind of stuff (what girl doesn't? Lol) but only when I can know that it's absolutely true and not written by someone else...that it's original and straight from his heart, with his own words and feelings. This is the kind of thing I would want to hear from my husband, I suppose. But all I want is for him to say it from his own heart, just as I will say what I feel and think from my own heart. That's what I personally consider sweet and tear-jerking. It takes personal authenticity to move me. Please don't stone me!
  14. Of course you can ask Him. I think this verse will answer your question: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7 So in other words, the Bible says that we can and should ask God for things! It also says that, while you're asking, don't be anxious. Don't worry or be impatient. Also, be thankful for what you already have. And the best part, Jesus will guard your heart in the meantime and give you peace that you can rely on when you do worry or get anxious. This is also addressed in Matthew 7:7-11: "Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Which of you, if his son asks for bread, wil give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" God is a loving God and He will give you gifts and the desires of your heart. "May He give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed." Psalm 20:4 I believe that God gives us desires by showing us how to want what He wants for us. Not all things we pray for will be answered in the way we think they will, because God is in control of it all. His plan, though, is ALWAYS the best plan, though we may not understand it. But that's why it takes faith and trust in Him. If you struggle with this (as we all do) I would encourage you to pray about it. Ask Him to help you to trust Him more. Whether things go the way you planned or not, they will go the way He already planned before you were born and before the world was created, and it will be perfect in every way. "In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps." Proverbs 16:9 Trust Him with your future, because He's the most qualified for the job of planning things for you. Let this last verse encourage you while you wait: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." Proverbs 16:3 Yielding to Him is the point of it all.
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    Lilith

    Interesting... Yeah, Eve was the first woman. There is no mention of anyone else.
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