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  1. blackswan41

    Mercy vs forgiveness

    What' the diff? Dig deep.
  2. I recently received a facebook message inviting me to an upcoming young adult conference in my hometown Dec. 28-31, 2012 partially sponsored by my local Catholic Archdiocese. Not unusual, except for the main Conference Coordinator being IHOP-the International House of Prayer. Let's just say that it's kind of shocker that these two fervent denominations have managed to work things out to co-coordinate a conference for 25,000 youth. Hallelujah, I say! http://www.franciscan.edu/NEWS/2012/Catholic-Track-at-Onething-2012/ “Unprecedented … A work of the Holy Spirit … A time for Christian unity” are some of the words used by organizers to describe the first-ever Catholic Track at the International House of Prayer’s Onething Conference, one of the largest annual gatherings of Christian young adults in the nation. Apparently, some others in the christian media disagree. http://christianresearchnetwork.org/2012/11/08/ihop-to-partner-with-roman-catholics-for-upcoming-onething-conference/ "The slide of the visible church down the slippery slope of compromise continues to gain momentum as ecumenism and syncretism replace sound doctrine and fidelity to the truth. Much of this compromise ultimately leads many back to Rome through such mystical, New Age practices as contemplative prayer as experience triumphs over objective truth. The International House of Prayer (IHOP) in Kansas City is one such group that has elevated and encouraged participants to seek mystical experiences with God as validation of one’s faith. This year, IHOP will demonstrate how easily such things align with the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church, as the annual IHOP Onething Conference promises and boasts of the inclusion of a Catholic track at this year’s gathering." "Christian Research Network is a sister work of Apprising Ministries. Here CRN Associate Editor Erin Benziger of Do Not Be Surprised… brings to our attention more sinful ecumenicism, which is becoming so common place in largely pretending to be Protestant evangelicalism." What do you say?
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    Can ecumenicism ever be sinful?

    Well, so much for that. Very creepy in its' timing, I'd say. No matter what us humans say, the dark side hates ecumenicism most definitely. Catholics pull out from IHOP-KC Onething Conference, Deaton murder a factor? Citing “the short time frame and organizational logistics,” [1] the Catholic leadership of Steubenville Conferences has announced the cancelation of plans to partner with IHOP-KC for the Onething Conference 2012, which will be held Dec. 28-31 in Kansas City, Missouri. The tragic murder of former IHOP Intern Bethany Deaton may be a factor in this decision. Micah Moore has confessed to the murder of Deaton, allegedly at the behest of Deaton’s husband, Tyler Deaton. Tyler Deaton was listed as an IHOP “division coordinator,” an unpaid position on the administrative team for the IHOP “friendship” groups, of which there are about eighty. IHOP has stated Tyler Deaton’s name was listed as division coordinator by mistake. Tyler Deaton is leader of a group that came from Texas to join IHOP, and there are allegations of sexual assaults by members of the group on Bethany Deaton. It appears the murder occurred because it was feared Bethany Ann Deaton was going to tell her therapist about being drugged and sexually assaulted. http://mywordlikefire.com/2012/11/17/catholics-pull-out-from-ihop-kc-onething-conference-deaton-murder-a-factor/ http://www.kansascity.com/2012/11/15/3919385/tyler-deatons-role-at-the-international.html
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    Gifts of the Holy Spirit?

    Lots can be found on the early church. It is a true eye opener to embark on such a mission. According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church[10] and descriptions outlined by St. Thomas Aquinas in the Summa Theologica,[11] the seven gifts are as follows: Understanding: In understanding, we comprehend how we need to live as followers of Christ. A person with understanding is not confused by the conflicting messages in our culture about the right way to live. The gift of understanding perfects a person's speculative reason in the apprehension of truth. It is the gift whereby self-evident principles are known, Aquinas writes.[12] Counsel (Right Judgment): With the gift of counsel/right judgment, we know the difference between right and wrong, and we choose to do what is right. A person with right judgment avoids sin and lives out the values taught by Jesus. Fortitude (Courage): With the gift of fortitude/courage, we overcome our fear and are willing to take risks as a follower of Jesus Christ. A person with courage is willing to stand up for what is right in the sight of God, even if it means accepting rejection, verbal abuse, or physical harm. The gift of courage allows people the firmness of mind that is required both in doing good and in enduring evil. Knowledge: With the gift of knowledge, we understand the meaning of God. The gift of knowledge is more than an accumulation of facts. Piety (Reverence): With the gift of reverence, sometimes called piety, we have a deep sense of respect for God and the Church. A person with reverence recognizes our total reliance on God and comes before God with humility, trust, and love. Piety is the gift whereby, at the Holy Spirit's instigation, we pay worship and duty to God as our Father, Aquinas writes. Fear of the Lord (Wonder and Awe): With the gift of fear of the Lord we are aware of the glory and majesty of God. A person with wonder and awe knows that God is the perfection of all we desire: perfect knowledge, perfect goodness, perfect power, and perfect love. This gift is described by Aquinas as a fear of separating oneself from God. He describes the gift as a "filial fear," like a child's fear of offending his father, rather than a "servile fear," that is, a fear of punishment. Fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (Prov 1:7) because it puts our mindset in correct location with respect to God: we are the finite, dependent creatures, and He is the infinite, all-powerful Creator. Wisdom:It is the capacity to love spiritual things more than material ones [h=2]Relation to the Virtues[/h] St. Thomas Aquinas says that four of these gifts (wisdom, understanding, knowledge, and counsel) direct the intellect, while the other three gifts (fortitude, piety, and fear of the Lord) direct the will toward God. In some respects, the gifts are similar to the virtues, but a key distinction is that the virtues operate under the impetus of human reason (prompted by grace), whereas the gifts operate under the impetus of the Holy Spirit; the former can be used when one wishes, but the latter operate only when the Holy Spirit wishes. In the case of Fortitude, the gift has, in Latin and English, the same name as a virtue, which it is related to but from which it must be distinguished. In Summa Theologica II.II, Thomas Aquinas asserts the following correspondences between the seven Capital Virtues and the seven Gifts of the Holy Spirit:[11] The gift of wisdom corresponds to the virtue of charity. The gifts of understanding and knowledge correspond to the virtue of faith. The gift of counsel (right judgment) corresponds to the virtue of prudence. The gift of fortitude corresponds to the virtue of courage. The gift of fear of the Lord corresponds to the virtue of hope. The gift of Reverence corresponds to the virtue of justice.
  5. I was baptized at 9 days old as a Roman Catholic. I'm grateful my parents chose to do such as it has afforded me many graces from such a young age. As a 7th grader I was given the choice to be confirmed in the Church by my own accord. As a true follower of Christ, I would say it occurred about 7 years ago when I was humbled by my disobedience and arrogance. Now I truly see.
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    Dating with Integrity

    Once you learn to love God first, you must spend a good deal of time learning to love yourself in a holy way. It is only at this point that you can love your neighbor as yourself. As with all things, God works with perfect order. Only fools skip to the last step first. Oh, and many relationship best sellers are filled with hooey. Find a good, live mentor. Ciao.
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    What is appropriate attire at your church?

    A look of joy for being there in Christ's presence is the main thing needed.
  8. Not to sound like the ultimate cheese, but the best is yet to come. Keep your chin up and look for beauty. Better yet, give some beauty. :) -- Mrs P

  9. Girl, I know you come back to stalk your old page on occasion now that your all fancy with that Western Civ stuff :)

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    Living together before marriage.

    Well you are certainly correct at least in the more recent era. The fact you listed it as a "problem" is most true. ---------- Post added at 09:06 PM ---------- Previous post was at 08:57 PM ---------- The following examples have completely taken God of this entire Trinitarian relationship between the man, woman and our Creator which is called Marriage. Marriage is tough work. It is not playin house. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see our human culture crumbling as a result of the breakdown of the family. ---------- Post added at 09:10 PM ---------- Previous post was at 09:06 PM ---------- So, I guess you're saying that it would've been fine if your parents just lived together while having you then?
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    Living together before marriage.

    Alright, that wasn't the kindest response, so I extend my apologies if I've offended some. However, if the shoe fits--wear it I say. Our recent trend towards "living together" is just that. Two people who choose to live together. This thin arrangement does not contain the foodstuffs of sacrifice. Consider it yourself. Would you rather live with someone who could bolt at any moment when the going got tough or someone who made a covenant in front of God and others to stay together in sickness and in health etc etc. Most people I meet who "live together" have a myriad of fears of the other person using them, abandoning them, financially sucking them, falling out of physical attraction to them etc. In short, they don't trust the other person to take the virtuous route, hence, rather then risk being hurt or abused, they choose the more seemingly logical choice of co-habitation. Well, love is not logical generally, especially if you intend to sacrifice yourself for another.
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    "Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor"

    This passage from Mark shows us that knowledge and love of God are rooted in a response to our Lord's call. St Teresa of Avila uses this episode to explain how to become closer to God in her classic spiritual guide, Interior Castle. "If we turn our back on him and go away sorrowful like the young man in the Gospel whose face fell when he heard what had to be done in order to be good and inherit life, what can His majesty do? He rewards us for the love we have for Him. This love is shown not in thoughts and words, but in deeds; not that He has need of our good works and deeds, but He wants us to be resolute."
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    Living together before marriage.

    My goodness, I am so grateful that I didn't have to fear being on the chopping block of my husband the first year of our marriage, if I actually acted human and made mistakes. Living together is not the same as being married. It's a sad comparison. Rather, living together is for chickens hurt either by someone else's infidelity or their own lack of trust. It takes a real man and woman to own up to the marital covenant and stick things out.
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    I'm not an advocate of spanking as there are healthier ways of setting consequences with kids such as taking away things which they enjoy. This proved quite effectice in the SPED preschool setting I work in and they can be the toughest to redirect I assure you. What I do object to is some of the wishy washy "let's all feel good about everything we do" mentality pushed by psychs for the past 40 years. It has led to narcicistic, unjoyful people who inuitively know better.
  15. How nice to hear back from you,

    an old name from the past! I hope that life is going well for you as I know that the teen years are tough. Stay still and know that you are His, sweety pie.

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    Breaking up a tempting relationship

    It is a fantasy to think that you can control what other people do. I repeat-- a fantasy. I suggest that you spend your time more wisely with people who lead you to being a better person. I always liked the quote: "I'd rather spend time with the dead who lead me to life then the live who lead me to death." In other words, it is more efficacious to read/learn about the saints/martyrs who have succeeded in virtue to make it to heaven then those convenient people on earth who tear down our relationship with God and self.
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    A tough interesting question...

    Many things which appear completely devastating at the time are able to be transformed into something lovely if one has fortitude and trust in his lover, whom is God. Suicide #2280 Everyone is responsible for his life before God who has given it to him. It is God who remains the sovereign Master of life. We are obliged to accept life gratefully and preserve it for his honor and the salvation of our souls. We are stewards, not owners, of the life God has entrusted to us. It is not ours to dispose of. #2281 Suicide contradicts the natural inclination of the human being to preserve and perpetuate his life. It is gravely contrary to the just love of self. It likewise offends love of neighbor because it unjustly breaks the ties of solidarity with family, nation, and other human societies to which we continue to have obligations. Suicide is contrary to love for the living God. #2282 If suicide is committed with the intention of setting an example, especially to the young, it also takes on the gravity of scandal. Voluntary co-operation in suicide is contrary to the moral law. Grave psychological disturbances, anguish, or grave fear of hardship, suffering, or torture can diminish the responsibility of the one committing suicide. #2283 We should not despair of the eternal salvation of persons who have taken their own lives. By ways known to him alone, God can provide the opportunity for salutary repentance. The Church prays for persons who have taken their own lives. (Catechism of the Catholic Church)
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    Confused on Catholicism

    I count 9 "I" statements in the mere paragraph above. If one is truly to be transformed from a stony heart to a fleshy one, which is the essence of being a genuine Christian, that number is going to need to be changed. I say in all generosity, as I say to myself, "who really gives a flying fig what you (and I) think?" Pride is the food for all sin to grow from. You may disdain me, but generally that only encourages my prayer and sacrifices for those I care about more. So that is what I will continue to do as you are most worthy I assure you. For any others wondering what the big, bad wolf the Catholic Church says on such matters, check the Catechism here: Chastity and homosexuality CCC# 2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,141 tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered."142 They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved. #2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition. #2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection. " Good day. --Mrs P
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    God literally hates me

    You sound like one truly hurting person. I do not believe that you are even able to hear God's voice as you appear to drown it out with sorrow and complaints. Might I suggest, you find some healing for yourself first? You are most worth the effort, as whether you believe it or not , you are made in God's image and in His likeness. You just need to carve away the pain to find that soul. This book I found recently is helping me: Healing the Unaffirmed: recognizing Emotional Deprivation Disorder by Dr Conrad Baars. Not sure of your past, but 12-step recovery groups including Adult Children of Alcoholics gave me many new tools in my toolbox besides feeling despair, angst, resentment and loneliness. --Mrs P
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    Confused on Catholicism

    To clarify any confusion on Catholicism's view on such matters it is helpful to visit the National Catholic's Bioethics Center: This article on their site referencing transgender lists this stance: http://www.ncbcenter.org/page.aspx?pid=482&storyid2510=10&ncs2510=3 "June 17, 2009. On June 2, 2009, President Barack Obama declared “June Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender (LGBT) Pride Month”. And with this declaration he has given us an opportunity to comment on aspects of the President’s position. The declaration begins by noting certain injustices committed against individuals who identify themselves as belonging to a group called the “LGBT community”. The acronym refers to a wide range of sexual dysfunctions, including homosexual activities, cross-dressing, indiscriminate sex with men and women, and mutilating surgery that attempts to change a man into a woman or a woman into a man. Each of these activities raises serious moral concerns. In keeping with the teachings of our faith, we love the sinner and hate the sin, but we certainly do not believe that we should celebrate these unhealthy activities or take pride in them." Frankly, I'm rather ashamed to be associated with some of the very liberal Catholic so-called open theologies being portrayed here. --Mrs P ---------- Post added at 08:50 PM ---------- Previous post was at 08:44 PM ---------- How does one connect with the sacred when they are so scarred? I'd sadly have to agree that many warm and fuzzy Catholic Churches have watered down its' theology to the point of mere pablum to appeal to the masses. If you truly desire to seek holiness, you are going to need to ask the Holy Spirit to guide you to a more traditional/orthodox Catholic parish which gives the hard truth. Pablum is for babies. Might I say, I declare this in pure love for you. --Mrs P
  21. Hello everyone. I'd appreciate any and all prayers for my brother Jack's fortitude while in the process of dying of Lou Gehrig's disease. I made a post a good year ago about his diagnosis which led to the loss of his job, his home and all his belongings except for a few incidentals which would fit into a sedan, his girl friend who abandoned him and his dignity as a man in many ways. Gratefully, what he has gained is much more powerful as in his weakness he has found his way back to his childhood faith of Catholicism. He truly lives yesterday's liturgical reading 2 Cor 12:9 "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness". His purpose from his recent nursing home bed where he relies on others for most everything is Col 1:24 "We make up what is lacking in Christ's afflictions". For while he prays for God's divine mercy towards the gift of salvation, like a child, he is offering up his sufferings to sanctify others. You may not understand, but, you will some day. Will you pray for him as it is most painful to watch for me, his little sister. Thank you so much, good friends. --Mrs P
  22. Well hello there Jakob. Lauren tells me that you've been in the area recently. Do stop by some day will you to meet the new puppy, papa P and I.

  23. How is your spiritual journey progressing, precious one? Interceded for you at the altar of a good friend, recently turned priest of the Apostles of the Interior Life. It was his first U.S. mass after his ordination in Milan a few weeks ago. I was one of the Extraordinary Eucharistic Ministers. Hope that you've made it to reconcilation to feel the healing balm before partaking.-- Mrs P

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    Religion in School

    I sat in a public classroom of 4 and 5 year olds cheerfully discussing their pets dying and living in heaven with God this Spring, only to have the classroom speech therapist tell all 13 impressionable young kids twice "that we don't talk about heaven at school". Her stern face set the tone at this impressionable age. If you don't think that you've been indoctrinated by hundreds of simple comments as such by teachers over the years, you are sorely wrong.
  25. Fine job keeping up the good fight Miss Zabby. Ive been keeping you and others in my prayers please know. Could use some more for my brother Jack in a nursing home now. His purpose is to help assist my family member see their own mortality and what they are doing to prepare for it.