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    Do you wear perfume?

    Sometimes I wear perfume. I've been meaning to start making my own. I found tons of DIY perfume tutorials online
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    Weird situation.

    I agree with everyone here, I believe you should move on. Do not rely on your feelings but rely on the word of God (look at Proverbs 3:5-6) God's answer to being with nonbelievers is laid out in his Word:"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"-2 Corinthians 6:14 I believe God gave us this command for our own protection. Yes, it will be very difficult to move forward but think about all the hardships and difficulties that WILL come your way if you end up marrying the guy (I mean, you're facing challenges now but imagine how tough it will be in marriage and with children in the picture. There are a few people in my church who are married to unbelievers and it is one of the most toughest, emotionally and spiritually exhausting things they are dealing with). Think about what God says about unbelievers and their unbelief: in the book of Psalms (specifically 14 and 53) they are called "fools" for denying his existence. You mentioned that your bf hates your love for Christ and that you believe he may think you're stupid for believing but isn't that enough for you to want to pack your bags and run for the hills? The Bible says that the message of the cross is foolishness to those who don't believe in what Christ did for us on Calvary but we as believers know it is power (1Cor 1:18). How can an atheist share and delight in this truth with you? They can't. It's impossible. Wouldn't it be much easier and less painful to wait for a man who loves and obeys God, who understands what it means to love you like Christ loved the church? (not saying things will be absolutely perfect and without issues with a Christian but you get what I mean, yes?) I hope I don't sound too harsh here I'm just really passionate about this subject and it pains me when I see or hear Christians trying to make such relationships work because it rarely ever does and there is that danger of compromising your beliefs. I will definitely be praying about your situation and I hope God will reveal his truth to you and give you the strength to obey his command. Keep your head up! Check out these links that deal with this subject: http://www.gotquestions.org/missionary-dating.html http://www.gotquestions.org/unequally-yoked.html http://www.gotquestions.org/date-marry-unbeliever.html Biblical manhood and womanhood (what a man and woman of God should look like): http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/topic-index/biblical-manhood-womanhood The Marks of Manhood: http://www.boundless.org/adulthood/2009/the-marks-of-manhood ---------- Post added at 10:34 PM ---------- Previous post was at 10:33 PM ---------- yikes what happened to my post? lol *sigh* time to edit -___-
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    Holidays with your bf/gf alone?

    I agree. Avoiding the appearance of sin is really important and something we have to think about.
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    Circumcision?

    I don't plan on circumsising my future sons
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    (Girls Only) How do you feel about facial hair?

    I looooove facial hair. It's sexy. I love it when my boyfriend has a scruffy face but I say a big no thanks to mustaches ew lol LUCKY! My bf hates having beards cuz it makes him really itchy
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    Stuff You Wish Guys Knew

    It can be amusing, I agree but if I'm having the worst cramps in the world and I'm feeling like my uterus is trying to kill me that's the last thing I wanna hear lol
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    Picture Post

    Me
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    How many kids would you prefer in your lifetime?

    I want four I love kids ^__^
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    Confessions

    Dad shut off the water to work on installing the new sink None of the sinks or toilets in the house are functioning right now I really have to pee right now
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    Stuff You Wish Guys Knew

    they should know that it's pretty insensitive to be like "THANK GOD I'M A GUY!" when the topic of painful/difficult menstruation or pregnancy/child birth comes up. idk i just find it annoying and rude
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    Fashion Tastes/Brands

    cute outfit raerae! love your style
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    {FEMALES ONLY!} Immodest Dressing

    Good point Rainbow. Honestly, I've had guys honk at me, try to talk to me BOTH times where I would be wearing a skirt or fully dressed. I do agree with modest dressing...however guys are responsible too. There are men out there whose hobby is to chase after all kinds of girls or women regardless of what they're wearing (of course many of them assume that a girl dressed in tight-fitting, short clothes is easy).
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    Can Rape Exist Between a Married Couple?

    Yes rape can exist in a marriage. It's a shame that in many countries their government do not recognize marital rape (obviously they won't regard it as rape) as a crime
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    Is it ok to wear jewelry

    Nothing wrong with jewellery. Just be modest with it
  15. So I was reading something on this site about how Christians shouldn't be wearing jewelry (all the reasons are listed in the link, of course). http://www.amazingfacts.org/FreeStuff/OnlineLibrary/tabid/106/ctl/ViewMedia/mid/447/IID/23/LNG/en/SC/R/Default.aspx?7=Jewelry:-How-Much-is-Too-Much? And I don't know, I just find it not really much of a big deal. I mean, I don't encourage people to wear a pound of gold chains like a rapper from the 80s. I understand all the points the author made (backing himself up with Scripture too) but I can't really see myself totally agreeing with him. Does that make me a bad Christian? Are Christians not allowed to purchase brand name clothing because it'll make others who can't afford them feel terrible? Are we not supposed to get our ears pierced just because pagans adorned their gods with jewelry? Is it possible to be modest AND wear jewelry? What do you guys think?
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    What are your thoughts on Zionism?

    Sums up my views as well
  17. :) hey how are ya!
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    Question on forgiveness

    As Christians when we forgive someone who has hurt us in some shape or form are we obligated to keep them in our lives? Would it be wrong if a Christian were to say things like "Yeah, I forgive you but I don't think we can be friends anymore." "I forgive you but you pose a threat to my children." I had read a person's (can't remember if she was Christian or not) story on a website some time ago and her father wasn't such a great dad. When she grew older she forgave him but decided to cut him off completely. Is it "real" forgiveness if we want to cut a person loose, are we showing God's love by doing this?
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    Confessions

    I don't know what to do. God, please give me an answer. I feel I'm losing my mind. It was so embarrassing for me to start crying at school about everything that's going on. I'm really trying not to depend on my own understanding but it's hard. I feel like the reason why I'm confused is because I'm scared to make more sacrifices. But...he still loves me. Why should I be surprised when we practically grew up together. Five years...wow. Should I give him a chance for him to show me that he's devoted to You? I don't understand. If I had felt that we were not spiritually compatible why am I debating on giving him a chance? I'm back to square one. Why did he feel shy to share his faith with me? Why couldn't he show me properly? But I know he has it in him. I know he loves You but...he has so much growing up to do and so do I. I don't want to be the one to change him--I can't be anyway that would be prideful! I can only depend on God to transform his heart. And maybe if this happens according to Your will, we could be together again. Much stronger, wiser, godlier than before. If we're not meant to be...then we'll just have to accept it. As painful as it will be
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    How do you feel about contraception?

    Having sex just to have kids is BORING. Not that I'm sexually active or anything but honestly, if you have been waiting forever for your husband you deserve to enjoy each other in that way! I'm pretty sure God would want us to enjoy being married as someone said earlier, once you have kids you can't redo it. Sorry, but I would like to enjoy my husband in the first couple of years of marriage without worrying whether the kids can hear us or not XD I'm not against contraceptives but I'm kinda weary about the pill. Hormones and mood swings kinda freak me out lol XD
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    Friendship with non-virgins

    Nah you didn't fail. I think you made a good point--disabled folks were abandoned during those days (still happening today though). Remember when they has asked Jesus what sin the blind man's parents committed for him to be blind in the first place? I'm pretty sure this mentality was also placed on lepers and crippled people as well, perhaps society thought they were curses. lol oh and btw I'm loving your comments in this thread *thumbs up* It shook me a little because my friends aren't exactly pure either, many of them are living the fast life in their spare time but I never wanted to leave them, I just felt I couldn't relate to them anymore and wanted God to give me a new group of friends. But He hasn't because He knows that's where I'm supposed to be, I'm supposed to help my friends and guide them somehow. So I really hope the OP has learned a little lesson here AAAAAND I just realized how old this thread is XD
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    Friendship with non-virgins

    Nah you didn't fail. I think you made a good point--disabled folks were abandoned during those days (still happening today though). Remember when they has asked Jesus what sin the blind man's parents committed for him to be blind in the first place? I'm pretty sure this mentality was also placed on lepers and crippled people as well, perhaps society thought they were curses. lol oh and btw I'm loving your comments in this thread *thumbs up* It shook me a little because my friends aren't exactly pure either, many of them are living the fast life in their spare time but I never wanted to leave them, I just felt I couldn't relate to them anymore and wanted God to give me a new group of friends. But He hasn't because He knows that's where I'm supposed to be, I'm supposed to help my friends and guide them somehow. So I really hope the OP has learned a little lesson here AAAAAND I just realized how old this thread is XD
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    Yes, Ladies, You Can Walk Around the City Topless

    What the? Rape in African nations have almost nothing to do with the women being topless
  24. KUALA LUMPUR (AFP) – A group of Malaysian women launched an "Obedient Wife Club" on Saturday, urging members to be "whores in bed" and obey their husbands to curb social ills like divorce and domestic violence. Islamic group Global Ikhwan held the club's inaugural meeting in Kuala Lumpur, giving women tips on how to keep their men satisfied and prevent them straying. "A good wife is perceived to be prim and proper -- you just take care of the children -- but not much is emphasised on fulfilling sexual needs of the husband. If he needs sex, obey him," Rohaya Mohamad, the club's vice-president told AFP. Rohaya said 30 percent of the club members were in polygamous marriages while the rest were in monogamous relationships and that the club was open to non-Muslims. "You must satisfy your husband. A good wife should be a ***** in bed," said 46-year-old doctor, whose husband has three other wives. She said the club boasted 800 Malaysian members so far with another 200 from across the Middle East. Over 1,000 guests and supporters turned up for the launch in a leafy suburb, held in conjunction with a mass wedding of ten couples, with the brides all members of the new club. "If the wife is obedient, then the husband feels good and is entertained and this builds a closer relationship and greater love and no one strays," said groom Mohamad Shurahbil Amran, 23. His bride Umuhani Lokman Hakim, 19, dressed in a golden white Arabic wedding gown, was unforthcoming when asked why she joined the club and would only say: "It is the right thing to do to keep the family together." The club has come under criticism from Malaysian women's groups who say the onus on keeping a family together is being unfairly placed on women. "With obedience comes submission, which may lead to domestic violence and marital rape," Women's Aid Organisation head Ivy Josiah told AFP. "We should really be forming equality in marriage clubs," she added. Women's rights group EMPOWER said the club was a step back for the progress of the equality movement. "We cannot go back to caveman days where the man pulls the woman by the hair and takes her to the cave to have his way. We must recognise that women contribute a lot more than just being a sex toy," the group's executive director Maria Chin Abdullah told AFP. Polygamy is legal for Muslims, who make up more than 60 percent of Malaysia's population, allowing Muslim men to take up to four wives. In 2010, a study by a Muslim activist group found men in polygamous relationships find it difficult to meet the needs of all their wives and children, and that the result is often unhappy and cash-strapped families. Source: http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20110604/lf_afp/malaysiaislamreligionfamilypolygamy
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