Hello Ell! Sorry it's taken this long for someone to reply. This site is basically dead at this point.
I personally believe in talking to God just like I would anyone else. I think that he is my father, and loves me more than anyone else, so why would I make myself feel uncomfortable talking to him by being super formal? I make sure to give him praise, talk about what going on with me, and sometimes ask for help.
My heart goes out to you. Your situation sounds rough, and I can't imagine how you feel about this. Know that I am here to talk if you need someone.