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  1. I started to turn to god about 6 or 7 months ago and got baptized! I am dedicated to serve jesus and change my old ways. As a child I never received love from my father at all. I think this might be why I still might struggle with wanting a significant other. I have been through many heartbreaks and sadness in my past. I met him from my friends boyfriend around the time I was baptized and her boyfriend is an athiest. I found it crazy how they were both best friends. He comes from a catholic family and he started coming to bible study with me. I didnt find him too attractive but I saw some good in him. We almost fell into sexual sin and that is when I stopped everything because I was scared on the reason I was with him. I tried cutting him off at this moment because I didn't want that to happen although, he continued to attend my bible study and I would see him two days a week. So we remained friends for a long period of time. He doesn't stop talking to me at all. He shows interest for god but I don't want to be deceived. What if he's only doing that to try to get me? My bible study is in Spanish and he speaks English so I always translate for him. When I don't go because I can't he doesn't either. I'm not sure what to think about that when a lot of the other church members can translate for him. Recently Ive been feeling lonely. I also struggle with anxiety and I've asked god so many times to heal me. I still struggle with it but not as bad as before. It all hit me at once when I entered college again. My insecurities hit me and I went back to having feelings for him. We almost fell into sexual sin again but this time he stopped it early because he remembered how I felt about it last time. I am very confused about him. I'm not sure where he fits into my life. Im not so attracted to him and his personality is very immature. He shows interest in god but I don't want him to do it just because of me. We are both about to turn 19 and I'm only a month older. I feel like I can't have a real mature conversation with him or talk about the god because he changes the subject into a goofy way. I feel like he turns me away from god but It can also be my insecurity? What should I do about him? I feel like my emotions are going everywhere. I'm a new Christian so I don't have much knowledge on gods word. Maybe give some bible verses to back it up?
  2. The season of singleness is notorious for being taken for granted. Whether we treat our singleness recklessly or simply despise this season of life altogether, we rarely find ourselves making peace with our single statuses. Too often, we rely on the thought of a significant other to motivate us to become our best selves. This could manifest in the most ordinary ways, like wanting to get in shape to attract a mate to, more dangerously, changing the sweet eccentricities of our character to fit into someone else’s mold of what is desirable. When we are not careful about guarding our hearts, we can actually lose our grasp on who we are at our core, which is God’s Beloved. Find out why you shouldn't trade who you are for who you want: http://www.girlandtheword.com/relationships/compromising-your-identity-for-love I hope this post will bless my readers..
  3. Hi everyone! My name is Mr. MJ. I'm a youth development coordinator with my company Launch Man Group! I have a heart for teens and want to be sure you have the support you need to navigate tougher life issues: in this case, love. Post your on-topic questions and I'll do my best to answer them from a biblical perspective and/or point you in the right direction. I don't pretend to have all the answers, but I know who does: Jesus Christ! We can all live better, happier, more productive lives when we follow Him, especially as it relates to our topic. I've already met a few awesome teens here and I hope they'll post here, and you too! --Mr. MJ
  4. This is going to be long, so brace yourselves. And may be a little uncomfortable. Well I broke up with my boyfriend last month. It was for a variety of reasons and I feel like the bad person. But I'll just make a list for you guys okay? Twice when I was with him, he shoplifted. Putting ME in danger. He always pressured me to s.moke (I know I'm not supposed to talk about that on here. Just let me list this) He always pressured me to be sexual with him, which I've denied constantly. Gosh. When we went out places, I always had to pay for things because he spends all his money on "stupid things" One day he told me about some "disturbing" illegal things that he's done I mean really really disturbing, enough to make you want to run away 10 miles from him He's super messy, and I noticed that he started to become quick to anger He wasn't Christian. He used to be but got rid of that title for some reason. He listens to satanic songs, but claims that he's not that way He never cared about the things I was passionate about: like my poetry. He would get bored and change the subject. EVERYTIME he came over my house, he left it a mess When I was in college this summer, he was upset that I wasn't paying much attention to him. But I was trying to do my homework. These are some of the reasons why. I just feel like I was mean for dumping him. His exact words to me was "I feel no pity for you." and "If you want to leave me for something ike this, then feel free to step out." I haven't heard from him in a month. So he must not care about me anymore. it's like I never mattered. It's always that way. I originally thought he was my soul mate (I know kind of cheesy), until I realized the things he was "in to."
  5. Rachel777

    Is he the perfect one?

    So I have liked this guy for almost a year now (young love, right ) but I just recently found out he asked out another girl who is a cheerleader and he's a jock and I'm a band geek ( the sad high school musical cliche) and when I heard about it i literally felt my heart break. We are going to different high schools next year and I wonder if ill really miss him as much as I think I do cause I really miss him right now. I have no idea what to do if I should tell him to get it off my chest or ignore it and have that feeling forever <\3 please help
  6. Sooo my former campus minster posted this on facebook recently and I found myself thinking "hmmm... I wonder what some of the CTF community would think of this" sooo here it is. http://www.thomasumstattd.com/2014/08/courtship-fundamentally-flawed/ What are your thoughts on the article? On dating vs. courtship? On the "traditional dating" idea presented. Personally, I love the "Traditional Dating" idea. Seems like fun, and a good way to get a feel for what you want/need in a partner without the huge amount of emotional investment. I like the old version of the terms "dating" and "going steady". I've recently found myself saying that I'm a fan of casual relationships but I'm realizing that what is presented in this article is more of my ideal. Regular "dates" without being boyfriend and girlfriend time to get to know a few different people and have someone to compare them too before "going steady." So yea. Just throwing that out there.
  7. I'm new to this forum, but I just want some good, solid Christian advice in this area because I can't speak to my own family and friends for fear of being laughed at. I don't blame them for a little insensitivity, after all, anyone who knows me would be very surprised that I feel this way. However, I do need someone to talk to, someone without bias, who will give me some godly advice on my situation. I apologize if this post gets really long, length becomes necessary to give you a proper picture of the situation. Alright, so there's this guy, as I mentioned above, who I've known since before forever. Our families went to the same church throughout our childhood, and since we're only a few months apart, we've known each other since infancy. Our families are quite good friends, his older brother works a lot for my dad and his mom and my mom are quite close, and his grandparents are very familiar to us and we all get along well. At our church there were not many kids our age, actually, there were none. Just me and him really, so we become friends quite early in life. I remember being told when I was young that he had told his grandparents when he was 3 that he wanted to marry me. At the time, being a wild, little tomboy, I was probably like, "ewww", but now I think it's pretty cute and sweet. He maintained a sort of 'crush' well into our preteen years, at least until the age of 12 as far as I know. Throughout our childhood we remained close and friendly. We both live out in the country and on farms, and we would often just run around outside together, in the trees or by the water or whatever. We had fun. We would see each other on Sundays and sometimes did things together, like going to each other's houses or snowmobiling or playing ping-pong. I can't remember how old I was but I do remember him and his mom coming over around Valentine's day and he gave me a poem and bracelet (I neither have or remember the poem, but I do have the bracelet). When I was 12, my family left that church but we still hung out a little, we took an art class together which was tons of fun. However, after that, our contact kind of died, and I hadn't seen him up until last year, when my grandparents began going to our old church and I started going with them on occasion. This church sponsors a local children's Christian camp, which I work at, and the camp director is a regular attendant of this church, his daughter, one of my older friends, and I were working in the kitchen at camp one day, and we got on the topic of this guy (since she loves to bring it up). Out of genuine curiosity, I asked if he was taller than me yet (as he'd always been slightly shorter). She said she didn't know and the conversation turned. However, the next week of camp, we were working together again, and she told me how she'd seen this guy at church the past Sunday and mentioned my offhand comment about height as she walked out of the door with him and his mom. His mom laughed and apparently he blushed and smiled and she said that height was important to us when we were younger. When they separated and headed to their cars she overheard his mom say; "See, she does ask about you!" I saw him a couple times at church after that, we didn't really talk but I caught his eye on more than one occasion. Then his mom and mine were texting and they invited me to the church's youth group. I went with him and we talked a little bit, he seemed more relaxed in this group of younger people, without our parents there to pick up on every glance and gesture, and some of his old, mischeviousness came back. I haven't seen him since, but I have wanted/tried to. My family keeps teasing me, saying; "He still loves you!" but I'm really wondering if he does, or if he just wants to hang out? Our parents have been trying to set us up (not really but you know) in subtle and not-so-subtle ways for ages, and I think their opinions are sort of biased. For years our families and church friends have been teasing us, pushing us closer, and now all that tension might come to head because my dad mentioned today that this guy's older brother told him that he might be working at this camp this summer. I am planning on working, and I am just a little nervous about how our relationship will develop when we're in this sort of gossipy, close, family-oriented environment. At camp, people very much enjoy setting up other people up with guys and girls, and teasing you about love, and falling in love and it's just generally that sort of thing (in a Christian way of course). I don't know what to expect, especially from the camp director, who knows us both and I'm sure knows about his crush and is very, VERY good at teasing people, particularly about romance and particularly in front of others (not that this offends me, but it might be humiliating). As for my part, I'm feeling kind of conflicted. I never liked him (romantically) when we were younger, as I was very much against ideas of love and romance and very much a tomboy, and still am, just with a touch more femininity. If I like him, I don't feel comfortable describing it as a 'crush', I think crushes are kind of silly things and I'd like to think I'm not being silly about this, or lovey-dovey or anything. At this point, I could see us growing up and getting married, quite a few years from now, as we both need some maturity, but it is possible, and it would certainly be nice if we could. The romances that have always struck me as the sweetest are ones that strike up between childhood friends and companions. If that worked out for me I would be kind of thrilled. But I just need another opinion on this. He is a nice guy, always a perfect gentlemen when we were kids, treated me really well, loves to tease, knows how to work, has been raised similar to me, quite good-looking, has known me for a long time, nothing seems out of place in my eyes, but I could be wrong. One thing he lacks is maturity and a strong Christian foundation, but with guys, maturity comes with time and he does have a Christian foundation at the very least. We are both sixteen, about twenty minutes away from each other, are both homeschooled, both go to Baptist churches, both like being outside, etc. Can anyone give me some advice in this situation? How should I be around him? Just friends? And how can I tell if he wants to be more? PS. I don't think he's taller than me yet (and I'm only 5'5)! If he is, it's really, really close! UPDATE: So last weekend was camp staff orientation, and he was there. We did not talk, but I caught him looking at me MANY times over the three days we were there and there were a couple instances when he seemed to be coming up to talk to me, but turned away at the last moment. On Tuesday, his friend (who had recently added me on facebook) started up a conversation with me over messages, which I thought was weird but I didn't question it too much at the beginning. Lo and behold, two days later, this guy gets a facebook account, adds me and then proceeds to start messaging me as well, and we talked til almost midnight. I'm going to assume he sent his friend to test the waters? Anyway, I am very strongly beginning to suspect that he does still have his crush on me. This summer will be pretty interesting I think.
  8. Rosie96

    Why so permiscuous?

    Well, lately I've been feeling very alone on this issue. I am not a judgmental person and I understand that everyone makes bad decisions. The thing I want to bring up is promiscuity. My best friend (who has quickly changed due to peer pressure) feels the need to tell me of her sexual exploits and meaningless encounters. She justifies and and seems to think that it makes her cool. I guess in today's society it is? But truthfully most of the girls I know who are sexually active are in monogamous relationships first. I don't think our friendship will last much longer because we are now so different. (I believe in love and fidelity) but I am saddened to hear her shrug it off, like it doesn't matter. What do you think? Does it still matter to at least one girl out there like it matters to me? Thoughts and opinions please!