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I searched on the forum for discussions on bisexuality and got 0 results, which surprised me. I myself am bisexual, but have only been in straight relationships. I've made a poll with simple answers, and you may answer them anonymously. If you'd like to elaborate your opinions that would be great! EDIT: Something must've gone wrong when I searched "bisexuality", I just tried again and found lots of results! I will check those threads out.
Hello, My name is Tessa, and I have a really good friend who (for the sake of her anonymity) I'll refer to as Jane. Me and her are really good friends. We are both Christian but different denominations. We met 3ish years ago and have been BFFs ever since. My relationship with her is like that of two sisters, and that will never change. Yesterday "Jane" told me that we needed to talk. She said she wanted to tell me something. She was worried and said that the only other person who knew was her boyfriend. I was a little nervous of what she was going to say, she kept saying she hopes it won't negatively affect our relationship. She then told me that she thinks she's bisexual. Honestly, I felt a little relieved. I was preparing for the worst with all the suspense. (For a moment I thought she was going to say she killed someone, that's how freaked out she was) I believe that homosexual acts are sinful, and so does she, which is why she's really troubled. She asked for my perspective so I told her what I thought. First I said that I was honoured she trusted me enough to tell me this, and I can understand why this is troubling her so much. I then went on to say that we can't control who we are attracted to. Our subconscious can be influenced by MANY things and we can't just decide to feel a certain way on command. The only thing we can control is how we act on these feelings. I told her I still care about her and if she ever needs to talk about it, I'm available. She said that she was slightly relieved, but she was still scared because she couldn't tell her family. "Jane" is from a VERY conservative household. She said that she felt like she was hiding a piece of herself from those she loves. I said that I think people nowadays make sexual orientation too big of a deal. It's just one aspect of your self conscious that doesn't control who or what you are in God's eyes. She can still live the way God wants her to. She then seemed a little more content with the situation, and we moved to another subject. Now, where you guys come in. "Jane" is still pretty nervous, and I've never been in this situation before. I really stink at social interactions as I'm quite an introvert except with my 3 close friends. Did I say the right thing? Should I say more? Should she tell her family? Should I encourage her not to tell her family? I love "Jane" and want to help her do what's best, but I don't know how to do it..... Any advice?