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I couldn't see this fitting anywhere else, so I chose to put it here. I feel like it is something the whole place could use, not distinctly anyone. The whole world could really use to think about it... Words are a privilege. A freedom. Something not everyone has. Words are like a superpower. You can use them for good or evil. You can use them to unite or destroy. Why we should choose our words wisely. Think of a person beginning, as a simple piece of paper. That blank page. Looks pure, clean, unharmed. Now this is a person. A living, breathing person. Now what happens to that when you begin to call it say... Ugly, stupid, worthless, it doesn't belong, etc.? Relate that to the crumpling of a piece of paper. Now someone can flatten it out and try to fix it. But the wrinkles will forever remain. But we can still use words, to try and heal the wrinkles. But let's say no one does this. And we continue to call it those names. Think of a vase now. That person became like a vase, it is together but fragile. As a person does that, it is like dropping a durable vase a couple times. You leave cracks, making it easier for it to break apart. Now continue, and what happens? The vase shatters into a thousand bits. This represents the breaking point when that person develops mental illnesses, self harm, substance abuse, suicide, etc. And think back to the beginning. This could have been prevented, by wisely chosen words. Maybe you aren't calling someone stupid though. Maybe you just say they're wrong for completely disagreeing with you. Maybe you attack them for their particular belief. Regardless, there is a NICE way to put everything. And if you cannot be nice about something, perhaps you should have not stated anything at all. The Lord has told us to leave judging to Him. Why do you think He stated such? Because, we do not know the facts, the story. As Christians, our job is to spread His LOVE, not hatred. When we bully each other, or non-christians, you turn them AWAY from the Lord. Think of that, when you tell that person that, because you don't know the story. That girl with an eating disorder, did it because many broke her to believing she had to be thin. That person who committed suicide, was not evil or awful, but a person who had been taken too far down the line. That person who had an abortion, is not a cruel killer, but was raped and couldn't handle carrying the child, and will live forever suffering how she had the abortion as well. That man who cuts himself, because he is gay and his family refuses to love him because they feel God said it is a sin. Think before you speak. A word can make someone's day, or ruin it. A word can hold someone together, or make that crack burst open. Words ARE a weapon, and we should use them for justice, not crime. Choose your words with respect for another person.
Hello, My name is Tessa, and I have a really good friend who (for the sake of her anonymity) I'll refer to as Jane. Me and her are really good friends. We are both Christian but different denominations. We met 3ish years ago and have been BFFs ever since. My relationship with her is like that of two sisters, and that will never change. Yesterday "Jane" told me that we needed to talk. She said she wanted to tell me something. She was worried and said that the only other person who knew was her boyfriend. I was a little nervous of what she was going to say, she kept saying she hopes it won't negatively affect our relationship. She then told me that she thinks she's bisexual. Honestly, I felt a little relieved. I was preparing for the worst with all the suspense. (For a moment I thought she was going to say she killed someone, that's how freaked out she was) I believe that homosexual acts are sinful, and so does she, which is why she's really troubled. She asked for my perspective so I told her what I thought. First I said that I was honoured she trusted me enough to tell me this, and I can understand why this is troubling her so much. I then went on to say that we can't control who we are attracted to. Our subconscious can be influenced by MANY things and we can't just decide to feel a certain way on command. The only thing we can control is how we act on these feelings. I told her I still care about her and if she ever needs to talk about it, I'm available. She said that she was slightly relieved, but she was still scared because she couldn't tell her family. "Jane" is from a VERY conservative household. She said that she felt like she was hiding a piece of herself from those she loves. I said that I think people nowadays make sexual orientation too big of a deal. It's just one aspect of your self conscious that doesn't control who or what you are in God's eyes. She can still live the way God wants her to. She then seemed a little more content with the situation, and we moved to another subject. Now, where you guys come in. "Jane" is still pretty nervous, and I've never been in this situation before. I really stink at social interactions as I'm quite an introvert except with my 3 close friends. Did I say the right thing? Should I say more? Should she tell her family? Should I encourage her not to tell her family? I love "Jane" and want to help her do what's best, but I don't know how to do it..... Any advice?