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Kissing.......does God like it?..... and is it wrong in God's eyes

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I'm new to this site, so hello viewers and thank you for being interested and helping me with this inquiry!!! I am a very headstrong Christian, and I'm staying abstinent until my honeymoon night(lol!) Well, I have a boyfriend and we kiss(not too often, but regularly.)I know how far is too far. We know our limit(no sex) and I just want to know your views on kissing your bf/gf, and whether or not it is wrong. Comments, suggestions, Bible verses, etc. are all welcome. Thanks in advance, and God bless you!!

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I don't think its wrong. Most of the time its expected in relationships. I feel this is really to be left up to the individuals involved. I don't think God considers kissing or making out wrong. Limits are needed though. Making out can often lead to more sexually explicit situations (feeling around etc...) but if you know your limits and can hold them, and you aren't lusting after your partner/boyfriend/girlfriend, then I think you're good. I see no scriptural references to kissing or making out being sinful or wrong. Just know your limits, and respect others around you. (no PDA!)

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As Let my life song sing mentioned, the Bible doesn't have anything to say about kissing. However, I think that before being involved in a relationship, it is be best to have a set of guidelines for yourself that indicate how far is too far. Then, once you're in a relationship or just prior to entering into one, it is best to compare ideas and set boundaries for the relationship that fit both your standers and your partner's standards. Of course, if you're already in a relationship, this doesn't really pertain much to you. For me (who is not in a relationship), I do not plan on kissing anybody who I am dating - the first woman I kiss will be my wife at my wedding. (Just for the record, I have kissed my mom before, but that's not exactly the kind of kissing that I'm talking about.) I wouldn't consider kissing a boyfriend/girlfriend to be wrong; kissing is just something that I would like to save for my wife.

Also, I think that it would be best if you have more boundaries in your relationship other than just to refrain from having sex. I'm not sure if you do or do not, but from what you said, it sounded as if that may be your only boundary.

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kissing is a sign of trust.

That is why when Judas betrayed Jesus with a kiss it was so ironic.

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The bible says that it is holy and undefiled as long as it is within a marrage... there is a story of a girl who wanted to stay a vergin untel she got married, but one day while she was kissing her boyfriend things got out of hand and they sleep together she sayed after it happened she felt so dirty... no matter how many times she took a shower she still felt the dirtyness.

P.S. she was a strong Christian.

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Thanks for all the replies, everyone!!! Each one has opened my eyes to new things. Also, I wanted to comment on littledubbs's comment: my only restraint isn't just for not having sex while kissing my boyfriend;anything sexual(oral,anal,touching and feeling)is prohibited. I just had to make that clear, any and everything sexual that I will do will be done with my future husband.

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The bible says that it is holy and undefiled as long as it is within a marrage... there is a story of a girl who wanted to stay a vergin untel she got married, but one day while she was kissing her boyfriend things got out of hand and they sleep together she sayed after it happened she felt so dirty... no matter how many times she took a shower she still felt the dirtyness.

P.S. she was a strong Christian.[/b]

OT, I guess she wasn't that strong.

I think kissing, being close, etc. is all fine and dandy. Good you have boundaries set, have you sat down with your boyfriend and made them very clear with him agreeing?

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Hey,

Far be it from me to be someone elses' conscience, but I think one of the wisest things a Christian believer can do is look at the motivations of their heart, not only in circumstances of romantic relationships, but in all things. If you kiss, why do you? Is it a sign of love/affection, or a passionate and lustful desire? Jesus taught us that is not what goes into us (He was talking about food, but it applies to most things I've found) that makes us sinful, but what comes out of our hearts.

Simply test your motivations and remember to obey the limits the Bible sets.

Yours in His name,

Arron

P.S. Welcome to CTF :)

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I completely agree with Arron Cook. Well, I don't now much about kissing and this kind of stuff, but what he said makes a lot of sense to me.

I just wanr\ted to say hallo to everybody. I am new here too. And well i just became Christian not too long ago.

:)

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I am struggling with a similiar problem with my fairly new gf...we havent really kissed but I think she is kind of expecting it soon. I think as long as the intentions are not of sin or lust it is ok in my opinion...but it is deffinently a personal decision. Hope this helps...good luck

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OT, I guess she wasn't that strong.

I think kissing, being close, etc. is all fine and dandy. Good you have boundaries set, have you sat down with your boyfriend and made them very clear with him agreeing?[/b]

Yes, I have, so we have nothing to worry about. He agrees and understands and is all for it.

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I'm new to this site, so hello viewers and thank you for being interested and helping me with this inquiry!!! I am a very headstrong Christian, and I'm staying abstinent until my honeymoon night(lol!) Well, I have a boyfriend and we kiss(not too often, but regularly.)I know how far is too far. We know our limit(no sex) and I just want to know your views on kissing your bf/gf, and whether or not it is wrong. Comments, suggestions, Bible verses, etc. are all welcome. Thanks in advance, and God bless you!![/b]

i don't agree with the part where you say that you have your limits..it's as though you mean that everything else is good to go as long as you don't have sex..i liken it to touching a fire and not expecting to get burnt..it's ridiculous..you'll want to go further and you'll end up progressing down the ladder..it's human nature that we don't stay at one level for long we'll always want to go to a higher level...i agree that you may know your limits but lets be practical here you may drift away without realizing..

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I don't see anything wrong with kissing as long as with what Aaron said it's done with the right mindset. If kissing leaves you lusting for more, even if you don't act on it you have committed adultery with your gf/bf in your heart. Even consensual sex between a husband and wife could be sin if the wrong things are going through their minds (hopefully that makes sense.) I definitely think from what you have said that you won't have much problem keeping your goal. But you can never be too careful, you need to seek God's aid and be ready for any situation the Devil will throw at you.

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I don't see anything wrong with it, so long as your heart is in teh right place. I do admit, on rare occasion I may kiss my boyfriend a bit playfully/lustfully, not out of pure love and show of affection, however so long as you have boundaries even this I feel is a normal part of any relationship.

My boyfriend and I did actually get too involved in kissing, and soon making out. We were simply just getting too involved, too tempted, and his hands started roaming,.. we talked about it maturely, and we decided from taht day on not to do any of that again. It was too much, too fast, and it was not the pure, lovign relatinship based off of friendship and companionship that we wanted. We have not done anythign bad at all since, and have seemed to have fallen in love all over again. A small peck on the lips can get my stomach turning and twisting, butterflies like crazy. Heck, him even just taking my hand and holding it can get me feeling all thsoe wonderful in love feelings.

For me, the question isn't as much as if it is right or wrong, but a matter of if it is necessary. If you are not yet married, why even get involved to omuch in that stuff? Why not focus on the deep friendship isntead? SOOO much more rewarding.

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well, in my opinion i think kissing is wrong (if it's lips to lips) not that i've been in a relationship. you know when the quote 'you may kiss the bride' comes; it's when the married couple are supposed get their first kiss. imagine an ex kissing another with the same lips. when it goes to getting a boyfriend, you have to think 'is this the guy i'm going to get married to?' if it's not how you would like, don't take it. before getting a boyfriend, he have to be a friend, get to know him first or else dumping will happen by the next day. when getting a boyfriend, you're ready to leave things behind; you finished education, you're available (except for family and friends stuff), etc. take your relationship seriously.

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well, in my opinion i think kissing is wrong (if it's lips to lips) not that i've been in a relationship. you know when the quote 'you may kiss the bride' comes; it's when the married couple are supposed get their first kiss. imagine an ex kissing another with the same lips. when it goes to getting a boyfriend, you have to think 'is this the guy i'm going to get married to?' if it's not how you would like, don't take it. before getting a boyfriend, he have to be a friend, get to know him first or else dumping will happen by the next day. when getting a boyfriend, you're ready to leave things behind; you finished education, you're available (except for family and friends stuff), etc. take your relationship seriously.[/b]

You seriously believe people should wait until their marriage day to get their first kiss? I'm not sure I've heard anything as funny or ludicrous.

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I think everything should save their selves for marriage kissing,hugging,holding hands you get my point

The world today has taken away from the sacredness of marriage I mean you hardly ever hear of anyone

saving their first kiss for marriage anymore.It's just unheard of,I think it's neat when a bride and groom save their selves for each other its just special, knowing that they saved theirselves just for you.You have to admit thats so romantic.

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NO...i dont think its wrong. You have to be able to trust the other person...and kissing is a symbol of your trust to them.

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It's not wrong as long as it doesn't lead to a premarital sexual relationship. That's just my opinion. I've kissed almost all of my girlfriends, and I've never had ANY sexual activity or thoughts about my partner. So, I see no problems with it.

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It's been scientifically proven that a relationship has to have some romance or it will "dry up". And besides, romance could be a hug or a kiss on the cheek.

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wow, thank you all... especially dimples...

i dont know whether i agree with it or not... :s... it is different when you are actually int eh relationship... rather thn commenting on it in passing though...

but thank you all...

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I have to say by my own experience that passionately kissing can very easily make remaining pure much harder. I laughed at my parents when they told me that but now that my boyfriend and I try out best not to french kiss, when we do I realize how much more passion gets involved. It all kinda depends on if both of you can keep your head while you are in that much passion. As to whether or not kissing and making out is right or wrong. I don't think its wrong but it can very easily lead to stuff that is wrong. It is something that has to be handled with care and great responsibility.

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Making out is very very enjoyable. You can get "carried away" any time you have contact with your boyfriend/girlfriend. You can just hug then get "carried away". Making out is just a further stage of it...

Glad you have standards, though. Just keep them, you should be fine.

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I also believe that it depends on a maturity level for the people. It takes a square head on you shoulders to not get lost in something.

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