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Would you ask a guy if he was a virgin?

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Stole from the guys. I do not really care, my boy friends not, but as long as I am his last, I dont care about his past girls. And if a guy just randomly asked me, I would not react well, it's a rude question. What do you think?

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I wouldn't mind someone asking me that. I'd just answer them. *shrug* wouldn't bother me none...

And no, i probably wouldn't ask someone. Unless we got into deep conversations about stuff like that.

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I wouldn't ask. Before marraige, I am going to ask, though, that he get an HIV test, just to be safe (for both of us). I will take one too of course.

As for if someone asked me that, I probably would not answer them. I find it rude and very intrusive unless you are planning on spending the rest of your lives together.

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I wouldn't feel comfortable to ask about that kind of thing, even though it wouldn't bother me is someone asked me. I would just hope he felt like he could tell me that kind of thing without me asking.

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yeah. it doesn't bother me at all. i don't see why it should. It just proves to people that there are virgins still out there and we aren't afraid to admit it. :) I'm definitely not afraid to.

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I think a person's past is their own business. I would appreciate knowing if it comes up and they are comfortable with sharing it with me, but I wouldn't flat out ask the question.

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i would go with asking if we were definitely getting married..not that it would deter our marriage but for peace of mind i suppose..Sometimes one does not have to ask..guys can volunteer information depending on the extent of your friendship. i have a pal of mine who suddenly brought the subject up and said he was one but most of the pals that he hangs out with aren't. but before marriage, I'd feel uncomfortable

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When we are really serious into our relationship, as in thinking we'll get married, I will ask, but I'm not gonna ask some guy I just met, because I think it's rude to ask so soon.

However, even though I think it's rude, I would answer someone who asks and not feel awkward or resentful about it. I wouldn't mind.

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I guess maybe if our relationship really serious i wouldn't mind asking, but i would really care. I guess it kinda depends.

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Er... probobly not. I mean, I'd really like to know, but I don't think I would ask unless he asked me or if we were in a serious relationship.

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I think that at some point before marriage he should volunteer the information. I don't want to know the specifics but out of consideration for my health and not keeping secret from each other.

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I'd wanna know even though the past really doesn't matter... So, if we got anywhere near a serious relationship I would prob ask them the question. I, personally, don't think it's a rude question. Especially if you're dating the person you're asking. You're just trying to find more about them... A lot of kids lose their virginity early... so...

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If the subject came up and we were thinking about marriage, I might ask. I don't think it's a rude question, just kind of awkward. I wouldn't mind answering if I knew the person who asked well. So, yeah, it depends.

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my first boyfriend just came out and told me... and in return i told him... but no i wouldn't ask unless the subject came up..

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I think it's a great idea. I'm not ashamed to say I'm still a virgin, so I don't mind being asked. I've always asked the guys I've dated, cause I'm just curious like that. Therefore they have every right to know if I am. If I was a guy, I wouldn't want to date a girl who's been with other guys. I just try to put myself in other peoples' shoes for situations like this. So, no, I don't have a problem asking or being asked. :)

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I've asked before. Of guys and girls. But only when the topic as nearing that subject, or if it was already there.

Obviously I wouldn't walk up to a person and just randomly ask them. But if someone asked me, I would return the question.

Fair is fair.

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i dont care if some one asks me. it makes me mad when they get all shocked and dont believe me. there all "you never even kissed? ever?". and if i wanna ask someone i ask

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ive been thinking about this lately.

I would be sooo uncomfortable asking a guy this, but i know im eventually gonna have to. I WONT get into a serious relationship without knowing whether or not it is gonna be able to end in marrige. And if he's not a virgin, i wont marry him.

but i think that if i really believe that he is the one for me, then he's prolly a good, godly guy, and it will prolly go without saying that he's a virgin. im still gonna have to ask tho

man, my stomache was doing flips just asking my crush who he likes....it gonna be doing in a knot when i have to ask my bf this question

^lol, that sounded wrong. today i asked my crush who he likes. eventually, when i have a bf, i will have to ask him

the way i wrote that the first time, it sounded like i have a crush and a bf right now.

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