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Will, your ex was stupid.

I save celeb gushing for when I'm around my gal-pals. Unless some poor male happens to ASK about my Thor obsession, then he gets an earful. :P

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N E V E R!

 

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EEEEVER! :-D

 

Happiest breakup song ever is best breakup song ever.

I HAAAAAAAAATE THAT SONG SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!

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I HAAAAAAAAATE THAT SONG SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!

 

*hug* Let it sink into your sooooooul, dahlin'.

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This was a question that came up in my family the other night. Do guys tend to be more protective toward small and dainty girls then taller and less dainty girls? Or does it not matter at all?

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This was a question that came up in my family the other night. Do guys tend to be more protective toward small and dainty girls then taller and less dainty girls? Or does it not matter at all?

Wait... are guys supposed to be protective of girls? I thought you just treated them like a person and acted like a decent human being around/towards them. If a small and dainty girl was being bullied or something, I'd come to her aid. If the high school jock was being bullied, I'd come to his aid. Because it is what a decent person would do.

So no, it doesn't make a difference. Stand up for everyone that needs it. Not the people that look appealing to you.

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Wait... are guys supposed to be protective of girls? I thought you just treated them like a person and acted like a decent human being around/towards them. If a small and dainty girl was being bullied or something, I'd come to her aid. If the high school jock was being bullied, I'd come to his aid. Because it is what a decent person would do.

So no, it doesn't make a difference. Stand up for everyone that needs it. Not the people that look appealing to you.

There's a residual thing from the past that men are supposed to be somewhat protective, yes.and also that women are totally delicate flowers and need protection from a MANLY MAN MAN.  I'm not a delicate flower little flower by any means. I don't want to be protected all the time. which some guys blow out of the water and enter into the controlling territory under the guise of "protecting" a woman.  Nooope.

Your approach sounds MUCH more appealing. I love it.

Protect your girl if she's scared. Hug her if she's sad, give her a heating pad if she's crampy. Just being humane in general. All of the yes.

 

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This was a question that came up in my family the other night. Do guys tend to be more protective toward small and dainty girls then taller and less dainty girls? Or does it not matter at all?

That depends significantly on whether the guy finds dainty girls attractive and on whether he thinks protectiveness is a winning social strategy. However, if you're asking whether guys treat attractive girls differently than unattractive girls, then the answer is almost always yes.

So no, it doesn't make a difference. Stand up for everyone that needs it. Not the people that look appealing to you.

While this might be what one is supposed to do from a liberal pov, it seems like wishful thinking as a description of the way people actually are.

Tons of arbitrary environmental variables influence the way people behave--even "good" people. Nice smells, being in a hurry, or being prompted to empathize with others all have a profound effect on whether almost anyone is likely to be helpful to someone in need. While individual nuance might be up for debate, research is clear that situation is highly salient to how people treat other people.

And sex is a huge part of the situation from a hind brain perspective. Of course guys are going to be inclined to treat an appealing girl differently than an unappealing girl. That's just the wiring.

Of course if you're a good liberal, that might not be a morally appealing idea. You might like to do otherwise than what your wiring suggests. And you can! With conscious strategies and monitoring with a metric, instincts can be overridden. But that's only going to happen if we take a realistic view of the challenge that our implicit biases present.

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Does it mean a guy likes you if he is "flirts" with you for about three years. Then suddenly stops then somwhat starts? (And by flirting, I mean he jokes around, writes poems that aren't actual poems,etc)

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Most guys act like that and honestly I have had the most trouble with guys who aren't christians. They like to play games one second they love you and the next they could care less.

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Does it mean a guy likes you if he is "flirts" with you for about three years. Then suddenly stops then somwhat starts? (And by flirting, I mean he jokes around, writes poems that aren't actual poems,etc)

 

When in doubt, ASK HIM OUT! :) 

 

Or at least call out the behavior and get some answers. Preferably in a way that's unambiguous but still generally saves face for both parties. 

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Okay boys

 

tell me if this is mixed signals and what they mean

 

boy: constantly says he doesn't intend to date for a long while since he and last girl broke up

 

on casual hangout, tells me I didn't have to get all dolled up for him, says his favorite thing about me is my honesty, and encourages me to buy a necklace he thinks would look good on me.

 

WHAT. DOES. THIS. MEAN?

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Okay boys

 

tell me if this is mixed signals and what they mean

 

boy: constantly says he doesn't intend to date for a long while since he and last girl broke up

 

on casual hangout, tells me I didn't have to get all dolled up for him, says his favorite thing about me is my honesty, and encourages me to buy a necklace he thinks would look good on me.

 

WHAT. DOES. THIS. MEAN?

He's just being really nice.

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Okay boys

tell me if this is mixed signals and what they mean

boy: constantly says he doesn't intend to date for a long while since he and last girl broke up

on casual hangout, tells me I didn't have to get all dolled up for him, says his favorite thing about me is my honesty, and encourages me to buy a necklace he thinks would look good on me.

WHAT. DOES. THIS. MEAN?

Probably that he's just naturally flirty. Guys can talk to girls and give legitimate compliments without it meaning anything.

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Okay, I'll throw one in.

 

Someone that I've known for years, was nice for a while, turned into a total jerk, and then acted nice to me for a while and is now acting like a jerk again. (There is no reason for it)

He flirts with every, single girl, (apparently me too) and I have no idea what to do.

I'll see him again in a month, I have NO IDEA what to do, and what to expect.

 

My mom and dad say that he has a crush on me, or that he doesn't know what to do with girls in general.

 

TRANSLATION PLEASE? D:

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He's probably just flirty. But if he's a jerk, don't talk to him. Just because someone flirts with you, doesn't mean they're interested. I used it as a sales tactic at the bakery I used to work at. "Ya'know... they say chocolate is an aphrodisiac, and we just put some fresh chocolate chip cookies out..."

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He's probably just flirty. But if he's a jerk, don't talk to him. Just because someone flirts with you, doesn't mean they're interested. I used it as a sales tactic at the bakery I used to work at. "Ya'know... they say chocolate is an aphrodisiac, and we just put some fresh chocolate chip cookies out..."

 

Mm-kay, thanks. 

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