jesuschic4life Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Would it or not bother you if your boyfriend/Husband not a virgin before you married? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwibutterfly Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I think I'd rather he was a virgin because then we'd get to learn a whole new experience together but... I'd rather know he wasn't a virgin before we get married than find out later that he kept it from me. It doesn't entirely bother me but I think on the whole, I'd rather he was a virgin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seaisabella Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 No. Being a virgin is a physical state, having sex for the first time with the person you marry is going to be different and special regardless of whether or not you are a virgin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jessicaaa Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I think it's okay as long he loves me but i'd rather if he was a virgin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opalecent Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Yeah... I want my hubby to be a virgin when I get married. there's something amazingly special about having kept that gift until your wedding night... that said... if the love of my life happens to have made some mistakes in his past, who am I not to forgive him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fauxxmodel Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 It doesn't matter to me either way. I want incredible sex, so if he wasn't then I know I won't have to train him. but if he is, then I guess I'll just have to be patient. But like an above poster said, having sex with someone you love dearly 100% is going to be amazing and special no matter their physical experience or state. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adonvara Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I'd really prefer it if my husband is a virgin. I just don't like the thought of the man I love having been with another woman, presumaby before they were married, and I can't help but wonder if he'd be making comparisons. And I'd want to marry someone who has enough self-control to wait until his wedding night to have sex. But it depends on the situation, I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kjadefuller Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 If they have made mistakes in their past, I am in no place to be unforgiving of that. However, It is important to me that any guy that I date, and therefore any guy that I would potentially marry, be committed to living a lifestyle of purity. It would be really nice if they were a virgin, but their past is not as important to me as the way they are living their life at the time we date/get married. No matter what his past is, it will still be OUR first time together on our wedding night, and It will be special. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jebbrook. Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Yeah... I want my hubby to be a virgin when I get married. there's something amazingly special about having kept that gift until your wedding night...that said... if the love of my life happens to have made some mistakes in his past, who am I not to forgive him?[/b] I completely agree. It's really not my place to judge if he's made mistakes, but I'm saving myself, and I'd love that gift in return. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WayToBreak Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 It wouldn't bother me. However, the man I believe I'm called to marry is one. Take this: we certainly weren't spiritual "virgins" when Jesus claimed us as His bride. And yet, He did. We have a God who can redeem all circumstances. Learn to love like Christ loves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashetreemeadow Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 i want him to be a virgin, but you know God doesn't always equate what we want with His plan. if it's His will that my future hubby has to learn through falling i suppose i'll get over it and trust God's forgiven him for straying but i'm saving myself for him, so i'd really love it if he did the same. how cool would that be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fauxxmodel Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 ^^^more, Awkward, ha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East of Eden Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 So it's awkward for someone to want what God has intended for us? You seem to have your priorities very messed up. Ashetreemeadow, I commend you and you have my highest respects. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fauxxmodel Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 No, first time intercourse is awkward in general. More so if either has no idea what they are doing. Just a fact, Ma'am. I think everyone knows that. I think it's great if you choose to wait, which I AM am also doing, the person you end up with is also a virgin, go you two. I was making a joke, no big deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blue Steel Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 It IS awkward :S You're completely right. Man, people can't take a joke. Anyway I don't really care. If he's experienced it would probably be more fun, if he isn't then it will probably be more special. Actually, it would be fun and special either way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hamlet Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 I highly doubt I would find a virgin man. But if I did, good for him! I honestly have no opinion. At all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesstheMess Posted February 15, 2010 Share Posted February 15, 2010 Yeah... I want my hubby to be a virgin when I get married. there's something amazingly special about having kept that gift until your wedding night...that said... if the love of my life happens to have made some mistakes in his past, who am I not to forgive him?[/b] ^ Extremely well said. Couldn'ta said it better myself. I'd rather him be a virgin because then we can learn together, but it's not my place to judge for past mistakes. Besides then at least one of us will know what to do xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HaleyGirl16 Posted February 16, 2010 Share Posted February 16, 2010 Im saving myself for marriage and I would really prefer if he did too. And he will know that before we ever get engaged. Im not saying i wont marry them, but they will know that that is important to me. I hope I find someone who that is important to as well. Yeah... I want my hubby to be a virgin when I get married. there's something amazingly special about having kept that gift until your wedding night...that said... if the love of my life happens to have made some mistakes in his past, who am I not to forgive him?[/b] ^Epic win! Well said! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Confio en Dios y Posted February 16, 2010 Share Posted February 16, 2010 I am fully planning on being a virgin until after I am married. It would bother me because I know if I wait, I deserve someone who has also waited. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
froggielover Posted February 16, 2010 Share Posted February 16, 2010 My husband and I were both virgins. Honestly, I needed him to be one. I know in my heart that I would have had a hard time getting past the knowledge of him with another woman in that way. I believe that that is why God lead him to me. What we share is incredibly special and I would never say that it was awkward. I am tired of people saying that actually. Virginity is something to be cherished, not given away to have experience for a potential husband down the road. Those of you who are waiting- My first time was not awkward. I was(am) a woman in love and he was(is) in love with me. It was incredibly special, don't let anyone talk it down to you and tell you it will be "awkward." My husband and I can look back and know that we were inexperienced, but that was what was one of the things that was so beautiful about it. We knew that we had forever and it was fun figuring things out together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madame Captain Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Those of you who are waiting- My first time was not awkward. I was(am) a woman in love and he was(is) in love with me. It was incredibly special, don't let anyone talk it down to you and tell you it will be "awkward." My husband and I can look back and know that we were inexperienced, but that was what was one of the things that was so beautiful about it. We knew that we had forever and it was fun figuring things out together.[/b] I needed to hear this. ^.^ Thank you. Even if it turned out to be awkward why should that matter? I'll love him to death. ;p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fauxxmodel Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 People have different experiences. That's just how it goes. Married Christian couples who were virgins on their wedding nights have told me their experience was awkward and painful. So, I mean, take it at face value. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesstheMess Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Those of you who are waiting- My first time was not awkward. I was(am) a woman in love and he was(is) in love with me. It was incredibly special, don't let anyone talk it down to you and tell you it will be "awkward." My husband and I can look back and know that we were inexperienced, but that was what was one of the things that was so beautiful about it. We knew that we had forever and it was fun figuring things out together.[/b] Oh I really needed to hear that too. I am trying not to have the mindset and know that it will be special, but part of is worried. I have another question, F.R.O.G, did you hurt alot your first night? Sorry if that's too personal, I'm just terrified of first time pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
froggielover Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 Oh I really needed to hear that too. I am trying not to have the mindset and know that it will be special, but part of is worried. I have another question, F.R.O.G, did you hurt alot your first night? Sorry if that's too personal, I'm just terrified of first time pain.[/b] It was a tad uncomfortable yes. But we took it slow and it wasn't something to complain about at all. It was easier the next time. I am not sure how much more to say without getting too into it, the best advice I can give would be to try and relax. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glamour_Dollxoxo Posted February 17, 2010 Share Posted February 17, 2010 It wouldn't matter to me since I am not one so it wouldn't be right for me to judge him since my past ins't crystal clear either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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