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Experiences in overcoming masturbation

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Hi guys,

I have recently started taking the whole issue of porn/masturbation more seriously and am currently trying to overcome my addiction to masturbation as well as pornography.

Whilst I think that the whole pornography issue is somewhat easy to solve (i.e. installing some internet accountability software on my computer and getting rid of any pornographic files), I am tending to find the masturbation issue more tricky to deal with. In particular, since I don't really have any experiences with long term abstinence, I was wondering whether somebody knows some website which describes what it feels like to stop masturbating (i.e. what I am likely to experience in the weeks ahead, and what the best ways of dealing with that would be). Alternatively, if somebody is happy to share his experiences via a PM, that would also be good (even though this may be too personal a thing to ask).

As for me, I am in my twenties now (so I probably don't quite qualify as a Christian *teen*), and I have been dealing with the whole issue for about 12-13 years (if I recall correctly).

Best,

-- zeochs

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Hi,

I have two videos for you. They parallel my own teen experience with sexual issues. Please watch these first (and anyone else who is stuck in masturbation/porn/etc).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EjNK5SuWOIs&feature=relmfu

They are weighty. But they are absolutely true. I had years of struggle and attempted combat against porn, lust, and masturbation. Here's my story:

I grew up in the church, was faithful in ministry, helped in youth group, and was very well esteemed and liked by most of my peers and even elders. Yet through it all, I was enslaved to my own sexual desires. I couldn't stop feeding them. I would have weeks of victory at times, but nothing was ever permanent. Like James says in the video, it was all my own attempts at reform because I knew God hated what I was doing. Then, in a tearful night, God showed me how utterly black and evil my sin was. There was (is) this young lady that I was very interested in, and I had begun to communicate with her. We had yet to begin a real "relationship", but we were growing friends. God brought to me that night how much I was sinning against her, if she was to be my future spouse, and, for the first time, I saw how bad my sin was in His eyes. I was vile. I was eslaved. I cried and cried. I knew I needed to be cleansed.

I went home that night and cried more before falling asleep. It was the most agonizing but most beautiful day of my life.

During the following weeks I realized that something was different. Temptation came, but the battle was won. I cannot really explain it. I did not have to yield. There was a greater power present that was not of me or my flesh. God had wrought in that night a complete work of grace in my heart. He renewed me. I see that night as the night He truly saved me.....no matter how long I had called myself a Christian.

Since then I have married the young lady mentioned before. We are happily married. I am not going to give you a picture of perfecitonism, however. I have fallen a couple times to masturbation since the night God cleansed me (but previous to marriage), but God was faithul to restore me and bring me back. I fell, but He has the victory, and He brought me right back onto the path. It is a walk in victory, not filth. Christians do fall into sin, but they WILL truly REPENT and turn back to Christ. Sin will NOT have victory over them (Romans 6:2,14).

As James said in the videos, do NOT be deceived!! Those who walk in and practice sexual immorality will NOT inherit the kingdom of God. They are not regenerate and made new, and do not have the Spirit. See 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. Paul says such "WERE some of you."

PLease PM me if you want. I am totally open with this area of my life now that I see how thick the fog of sin was over my own head. I want to see others delivered as well, by the power and grace of God.

Above all, look to Christ. He is everything. Cast away your own righteousness before Him and wrestle in the Word and in prayer until He delivers you.

-IS

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@insyder: I loved your post. I checked out the videos a few days ago, one is broken I think, but I liked the 'illbehonest' one. I like how he points out that we should not make 'freedom' our God - SO TRUE; I'd never thought about it that way before.

Since most of us (teens) aren't very close to getting married (obviously makes it easier to quit) I think it's important that once you're free, not to let your guard down. Catch yourself when you say 'just this once' because it'll come back again... the next day, and the next. Once you're free, captivate every thought and don't even let the slightest impurity entertain your mind. This is the toughest part, and what you'll be feeling for a while. After a few months it honestly becomes something you don't even want anymore. And then you hit a rough patch, whether you're just stressed out or you had a rough night, it'll come at your weakest hour. Get up, go somewhere else, get away from your computer or whatever temptation, call up a friend or just pray and hold on to your bible.

At first, limit the time you spend alone, or limit the way you spend your time. When I've been on the computer for a long time I put some Christian music on, something to uplift me and keep my mind on the right things. You see, quitting isn't just shutting yourself off from every possible temptation. Anyone can get around a blocker, find the 'secret' password, etc. Overcoming this takes strength that you can only pull from God. Read your bible, take in the passages, apply them to your life. Highlight, write notes, and come back to them. You don't have to read for hours a day, just read for a few minutes, read until you don't want to read anymore. Then put it down and get back to your life, but let the words marinate in your mind. You'll find yourself wanting higher things - not low earthly things such as those listed. I like to read before I go to bed so that the last thing I think about is scripture. For me, temptation is highest at night, after I've been alone for hours and am generally bored and can't sleep. Find what works for you and stick with it.. or change it up. It's all up to you! Feel free to message me with any questions or if you're having a hard time.

Above all: When you fall, pick yourself back up. Failing just means you can do better. This isn't a race, or king of the hill. The longest one pure doesn't win. Take it one day at a time and don't give up.

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Hey, thanks for the responses. Things have been going quite well in this area for something like 8 weeks now, and I am kind of optimistic that God has set me free from this sin. Thanks a lot for your help!

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You are very welcome zeochs. One more thing I want to add: don't look to the day count as proof that you're free. Look to Christ. I used to do the day count thing trying to break free from masturbation, and it never helped. Un dia la vez. One day at a time. Let the Lord get you through each day. Sin will not have dominion over you if you are His. God bless, brother.

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Cheers. I completely agree, and by the help of God, I have been able to make quite good progress in this area, and it does seem to me like it is possible to have victory if you keep focusing on Christ and asking him for his help. The only thing I would add to that would be that accountability with a person from real life is crucial - I probably would not have gone very far without the encouragement by my accountability partner.

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