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How to approach atheist and agnostics with the Truth?

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At my high school, especially my magnet classes, students have turned away from God and the Word! In my group of friends there is only like a couple of Christians. There are 5 friends of mine that are lesbian. My class discussions(I'm in Scholars magnet, so we talk about contemporary issues) involve abortion and LGBT people, and I'm the only person in class that is against those things, except this Muslim girl. Even the teachers agree! One of my teachers failed one of my friends which is in a grade higher than mine because he was pro-life and because his beliefs of God. My brother's teacher is atheist, most people are atheist in my school!!!!!

For the past years I almost fell into being atheist too, until one day that I decided to open the door to Jesus and give Him a chance. My world exploded when I did. I felt His presence and I started to have this moments were EVERY SINGLE EMOTION SKY ROCKET!! I felt extreme joy and happiness towards Jesus, and I felt extreme fear, sadness, and anger towards myself whenever His presence fell over me. I felt to my knees and I cried so hard, my face was sore instantaneously. I started to hear to His voice. This is why I believe,because He revealed Himself to me. And He did because I gave Him a chance to heal me. 

I don't know how to approach my atheist friends and other students. I'm scared how they will react if I do. Please help me with this, I really want to share the Truth with them. 

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Simple. Just don't bring up the topic.

I have lots of 'friends' and people that I care about, that are LGBT, atheist, etc. Generally, they're respectful and stay away from those controversial topics; from my experience, it's only the absolute horrible people that wave the topic around and argue illogically about their side/cause. (hint hint)

Also, this specific issue that you've brought up, (you being orthodox, and they being atheist), this is a huge social issue that you alone won't win against. Christianity is a dying religion here in the United States. My personal suggestion would be that you ignore the topic, and treat them like your 'normal' Christian friends. Also, I must add that I feel rather suspicious of how you've typed this, given that the LGBT and Atheists are humans, and deserve as much respect and love as us Christians; you seem to think that you must play missionary, or preach to them about Christianity, which leads me to my final two statements; 

Don't play the missionary. It'll only cause bitterness and arguments; you won't win that fight. 

 

Unless your issue is about talking Christianity to them, and you trying to play missionary all along, and not how to get along with these people... in which case, do read the two statements above. ^-^

 

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Just a heads up: this post ended up being advice to @Marvin's question, mixed with a few questionable things I wanted to point out and ask @paraskeve regarding her post. Just realized how long this reply is, sorry about that, but I implore you to read through all of it, most of the stuff about approaching non-Christian friends in answer to the original question is near the bottom.

 

5 hours ago, paraskeve said:

Simple. Just don't bring up the topic.

I'm afraid that's not quite the Biblical solution to this situation; as Christians, we are instructed to be the light of the world, and to share the Gospel with all of creation. This is the polar opposite of not bringing it up, and trying to avoid controversy. What society defines as controversial is something which they may not agree with- we are not to conform to the ways of this world, and thus shouldn't be afraid to speak about controversial topics (especially the Gospel). If you're not sure Christians are supposed to share the Gospel check out this set of verses, as well as these verses.

6 hours ago, paraskeve said:

I have lots of 'friends' and people that I care about, that are LGBT, atheist, etc. Generally, they're respectful and stay away from those controversial topics; from my experience, it's only the absolute horrible people that wave the topic around and argue illogically about their side/cause.

I have a large number of friends who are atheist, agnostic, Mormon, a handful who would call themselves LGBT, and beyond. I love having logical, theological, and Biblical conversions with them, especially the atheists, and at the end they enjoy the discussion as well, because we keep everything civil and well thought out (There's huge amounts of logical, historical, and scientific evidence out there for God and the Bible, I'd highly encourage you to look into it. A few of my favorite sites include Christananswers.netAnswers in Genesis, The Institute for Creation Research, Always Be Ready, Answers for Atheists, Christian Apologetics and Research Ministry, and Lee Strobel's book The Case for a Creator

Most of the time when talking to someone about God, and debate/ argument will never be necessary, in a few cases it is (even Jesus debated with the leaders of His day) It's always best to approach everyone- especially those you want to talk about Jesus with, in love. Love conquers all, and is mentioned over 230 times in the New Testament alone.  When approaching someone with God's word, don't come in guns blaring, shooting holes in their beliefs and arguments, but rather approach them softly and curiously with love and compassion. I've been a missionary since I was nine years old, and that's what I've found to work the best. 

6 hours ago, paraskeve said:

Also, this specific issue that you've brought up, (you being orthodox, and they being atheist), this is a huge social issue that you alone won't win against. Christianity is a dying religion here in the United States. My personal suggestion would be that you ignore the topic, and treat them like your 'normal' Christian friends. Also, I must add that I feel rather suspicious of how you've typed this, given that the LGBT and Atheists are humans, and deserve as much respect and love as us Christians; you seem to think that you must play missionary, or preach to them about Christianity, which leads me to my final two statements; 

Don't play the missionary. It'll only cause bitterness and arguments; you won't win that fight. 

 

Your first sentence there is so true. There is no way we can win or successfully bring someone to the Lord by ourselves; that's why God gave us the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit will give us what we need to say and how to say it if we just listen and obey. 

Remember not to get caught up in identifying Christianity as just a religion: it is a relationship with God. I'm not going to get too into that because it's a huge separate topic, but you can read more about it here

Not sure where you got that Christianity is dying in the U.S. According to the Pew Research Center the percent of Americans who identify themselves as Christians has decreased from ~78% to ~70% in the past decade or so. I personally was shocked to see that so many Americans identify themselves as Christians, and even though there has been a decrease, 70% of the population is still huge.

Please please please don't ignore the topic of God- it should be the most important and urgent and pressing topic to talk about with everyone you encounter. Sin is a toxin, it's a disease which everyone has yet doesn't realize. It's a terminal condition which every human is plagued and has no cure. It kills everyone at different and unexpected times. This sin sounds like a pretty darn disease to end up with, and it is; but Christians have an immunity, we have a cure. That cure is Jesus and is His Gospel. If you know the people around you are hopelessly dying, and you have the cure, why would you not share the cure (the Gospel) with them? Wouldn't that even indirectly make you a killer if you could save them from death yet don't?

If you want some more motivation for sharing the Gospel (aside from the above lists of verses) you could check out this dramatic reading of A Letter From Hell made by Dare2Share; the premise is that imagine you have a friend who you could have shared Jesus with, but didn't, who then died and went to Hell and wrote you a letter from there of his thoughts.

You're right: no Christian should "play" the missionary. Every Christian should be a missionary. If you share the Gospel correctly there should be almost no arguments/ bitterness raised (You'd only possibly see it when sharing with someone who is really entrenched in Satan's ways). Don't forget The Great Commission which was the last instruction Jesus gave mankind while on earth. He instructed us to share the Gospel with everyone. Do not fall into fear or apathy! Go out and share the Good News, go deliver that cure; by some you will be rejected, but don't get down from those encounters, try sharing again with those who reject later, and in the mean time go and share with someone new. 

I've mentioned the Gospel a lot in this post, it's good to make sure that you know what it is. This answer gives a nice overview of what the Gospel is, and Life in 6 Words, as well as Falling Plates both have videos which explain the Gospel in creative ways. Dare2Share also has great resources to help share your faith. Another great way to familiarize yourself with the Gospel is to read through the book of John, or by listening to it on something like the Streetlights Bible App

 

So for sharing the Gospel with friends, it's important to do it in a loving and not condescending way. Before you go in to share the Gospel with anyone it is important that you pray for them first, during prayer God can reveal ways to you of how to approach them and share the Gospel with them. It's also just good to pray that the person will be receptive to the message you bring to them. It's also a good idea to familiarize yourself with the other persons beliefs before talking to them, Dare2Share has huge amounts of resources on sharing your faith, including this page on different worldviews and how to approach them. 

Unfortunately I've got to get back to studying for exams tomorrow so I won't be able to get too much into Gospel sharing tactics, but thankfully much of what I have to say is already online.

When sharing the Gospel with someone remember the 3 A's: Ask, Admire, Admit. Ask questions about what the other person believes, this helps you get to know them and breaks down walls- also people like talking about themselves. Admire what you can about what the person believes, this really helps build a connection and trust with the other person, as well as breaking down further walls. And finally admit the reason you're a Christian is because you're a sinner and needed Jesus to save you from your sins. You can read more about AAA here.

Another thing to remember is called THE Cause circle. (THE Cause is something Dare2Share which is basically the cause of Christ and of spreading the Kingdom of God, you can read more about it here) THE Cause circle basically says that for everyone you want to share the Gospel with, first pray for with passion, then pursue them with love, and finally persuade them with truth. The full explanation with a video can be found here

Be ready to defend your faith, especially when talking with atheists, they generally like to debate the Bible. You may have people ask you hard questions which you don't know the answer to. When you don't know the answer it's important not to just make something up on the spot, you can just admit that you don't know the answer right now but will get back to them when you find out, then do one of these things: pray for an answer, ask a pastor/ youth leader, ask Google/ the internet (Here's a few really good sides for answering tough questions: Christananswers.netAnswers in Genesis, The Institute for Creation Research, Always Be Ready, Answers for AtheistsChristian Apologetics and Research Ministry and Lee Strobel's book The Case for a Creator

God loves your passion for wanting to share Him with your friends, remember He gave you that desire. Don't give up on it when things get rough, remember that most people will initially be resilient to the message. Make sure to spend lots of time in prayer, check out those links and resources mentioned above. Let me know if you have any questions, I'll try to get back to them as soon as I can.

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Fox545, Thank you so much. I will definitely use the material and advice you gave me, It seems great. I promise that I will use it to save lives. Again, thanks a lot. God bless.:thumbsup:

 

 

P.S. Paraskeve, how am I orthodox? I'm mainstream(evangelical). :confused:

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30 minutes ago, AwkwardAtheist said:

You could approach them with actual evidence that God exists, of which there is none.

 

Not to be rude...but why are you on a Christian forum if you are an atheist? I don't mean to be rude...please forgive me. 

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On 22/9/2017 at 2:58 PM, AwkwardAtheist said:

Curiosity, i guess.

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In order to have evidence to see if God exist is by having an experience with him. Many people believe in him bc he revealed himself to people. TBh the bible doesn't show enough evidence that God exsist;however in order to believe is to ask God for an experience with him. I remember when I told God that if he is real and if that if he actually cares about me, to reveal himself to me and he did. 

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