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I love my dad. Ever since I was a kid, he’s been my protector. If I ever got in trouble I knew he could save me. But then he lost his job, and he slowly started to change. My family blamed it on the stress, but then he got another job, and we hoped it would get better. But the job was stressful and it got worse. Again, we blamed it on the job, and when he quite we hoped it would make things better. But it didn’t. How’s hes home more often and we’re starting to see how bad he has gotten. He’s threatened violence against us, sometimes just for disobeying him. He gets angry and blames use for things we can’t control, or very small things. If we try to explain, he gets angrier. He thinks that we think of him as a villain, when he’s really the hero trying to save our family. But it’s him that tearing us apart. My moms so stressed to keep the house clean all the time, despite her full time job. My littlest sister is feeding off his emotions and is going on a downward spiral that I can’t stop. The middle one is trying desperately to please him. But I can’t stand hypocrisy, and I can’t stand my family living in fear. I keep fighting with him, but nothing I say makes any impact on him. He just thinks I’m a rebellious teen, despite he fact I’m 17 and pretty mature for my age. But the worst things he’s done is, during our biggest fight so far, grab my by the arm and shove me, which resulted in me falling down. I had a huge bruise on my arm and thigh. He never apologized, and I simply can’t forgive him. How do I make him understand? I want my papa back.

Edited by Devyn

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Hey Devyn,


So sorry to hear that you're going through something like this! I personally have never gone through something like this, so I don't feel qualified to give advice, however I did find this article that was explained fairly well on ways Christians can handle situations like this. It may help, it may not, but I figured I'd send it your way in hope that you'll be encouraged. https://pairedlife.com/advice/Dealing-With-Toxic-Parents-in-a-Christian-Way


I'm praying for your situation, and praying that God will give you wisdom in the face of this trial.



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