Online Relationships

[rokcndy]

What do you think about having an online relationship, meaning a relationship over the internet where the couple has never met in person before? Are you for or against them? Please give your reasons why ^ ^

I'm in one and so far its going beautifully, but I also heard that most online relationships, especially long-distance ones (which is the majority of them and the kind i'm in right now) don't last. I've been together with my boyfriend for a little over a month, and I was friends with him for two months before then. We met randomly on an rpg website (we iz major dorks..) and started talking in private chat, and when i felt like i could trust him, video chat. He's a really good friend, and is everything I was looking for in a boyfriend; kind, funny, caring, loves God, etc... We've both talked about our standards/expectations/priorities and they match up almost perfectly, and we're both committed to the relationship. Everything seems to be right except for the distance and the fact that his family doesn't really know me (most of my family members/sister& brothers are friends with him actually.. i met him thru my sister ^ ^). We're meeting in a couple of months. Originally, we'd planned on waiting until we met to get into a relationship, but it just didn't feel right to look for other people while I was waiting to meet him, and now we're already talking about going to college together (he'd come down to my state in 2 years). Do you think we're making the right decision, or are things going too fast? I want to hear your thoughts because both of our parents are constantly saying "you haven't even met each other!!!"

Also, has anyone else been in an online relationship?

[Glamour_Dollxoxo]

I think its fine if the two people plan to meet, but if you never meet and just have a relationship over the computer than to me it's not a real relationship and your basically falling in love with the certain image that they can present to you online. Doing a computer only relationship doesn't seem like it would work out since you can't really get to know a person or see how they act around family or friends by having a strictly computer only relationship. From someone who has dated though I will tell you this you shouldn't plan your future around a boy including college because I know too many people who have gone to college XYZ because their bf or gf goes their and when it doesn't work out it can leave a lot of hurt feelings especially at a young age with moving across state lines to be with that person is a lot of pressure to put on a relationship.

[afriendlyatheist]

online relationships don't exist.

[Jaycawbz]

It's possible to make them work, although in my opinion, it's nearly impossible.

I think the fact that you're planning to meet makes things a little better though.

[OhhSnapStephanie]

I met my boyfriend, Peter aka Eclipse on here, on CTF, well on a skype call with CTF members. Anywho, that was back in May 2008 that we started talking. We started to talk like every day until all hours of the night. Both of us told ourselves online relationships don't work, so we just shrugged it off. I started to really like him, and felt pretty dumb about it, haha. But in the end, we both liked each other too much to just shrug it off anymore. We decided to be a couple.

He started to save money to fly down from Canada to Alabama to see me. May 2 of this year, my family and I picked him up from the airport and he stayed with us for a whole month. Best times I've ever had, I can't even explain how amazing it was. I am flying up there in 45 days for Christmas. I'll be staying 3 weeks. I hope to move up there in June. We's getting married next year.

So despite all the judgment and doubts from other people, especially from everyone around where I am, we have made it. It can work. It isn't easy. Especially not being able to see the one you love after you've got to spend time with them. When Peter left that day, I've never been so sad. I cried until I couldn't cry anymore. It's so worth it though. He's everything I prayed for, and i know without a shadow of a doubt that he is the one God made for me and I for him.

Good luck with your relationship, Ally! Just keep God first and He will help you guys so much with the distance, believe me. Had it not been for God, this would have never worked.

[Eclipse]

online relationships don't exist.[/b]

Neither to friendly Atheists.

[Jehovah'sdaughter]

online relationships don't exist.[/b]

bah. yes they do.

I'm in one. Nine months November 14th :heart:
Met him on here, i did. It's been amazing. We've met twice, i'm seeing him again in two weeks, AND over Christmas. We want to get married.
So, if you think it's worth it and he's an amazing person, stick with it.

[JordanL]

Online relationships work if you want them to work and they are meant to work. I have been in one before. (Through CTF) Distance didnt play into our relationship whatsoever, and it wasn't the reason we broke up. So I'm praying for you and you're boyfriend that things work out!

(I MEAN LOOK AT PETERSTEPH! They're like. Amazing )

[heychicky818]

Eh. I think they are... hard. I mean, I personally have never had a relationship online, but they seem to be a little fishy. Not everyone is like they are on the internet. In real life, I'm not completely crazy, and I'm a little quiet if I don't know someone that well. Of course, I'm not lying to anyone, its just easier to be more open on the internet for some reason. What if when you meet this person, you are disapointed because he/she isn't like he/she was on the internet. It happens. *Shrugs*
I honestly don't know what I stand on this, but at the moment I won't be dating anyone off the internet.

[Comeuppance]

They're hilarious.