We talked about this in one of our group discussions in Christian studies; The answer I came up with for myself was that I would not date someone, until I know for sure, I will be able to keep my thoughts pure, and the relationship Pure..
Also dating a non christian was kind of out of the question for me, as that would probably bring in allot of problems.
<div align='center'>My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. Psalm 73:26</div>
<div align='center'>^^ A close friend gave me that scripture and it Gave me new hope.</div>
I think theres a difference between a girlfriend and someone you want to marry.
A girlfriend, in my opinion, is a girl who you really click with, and really get along with, and feel "love" for. Not the same love you feel for a future wife, because I don't think you develop the ability to really love someone that way until you're a bit older.
The woman you want to marry, now, is someone who you have an unconditional love for, and you would never do anything to betray that love. It's a different love than the love you have for a "girlfriend."
My views on the matter: It's only wrong to have a girlfriend at that age if you know you will be tempted to take the relationship too far.
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Ok so I am 17 and for the past 3 months have had a GF. Sounds good. Now I have talked alot with my (sorta) Christian friend about this, and my view is this: I will never date anyone I cannot see myself marrying. Scott! Thats preposterous! Haha hear me out. Of course I am not saying I know who I want to marry before a relationship, but before I even begin to think *remotely* seriously about them, I have a mental picture. Maybe its naive, stupid, ridiculous but it seems to be working at the moment. That picture is me walking in the front door, at the ripe old age of 35, with my wife (sorry to stereotype) putting dinner on the table while the kids run in to give me a hug. And I then think, is this girl in my math class for example, is this the type of girl who fits that ideal?
Its probably a bit idealistic and unrealistic but it seems to be working. My point? At only 17, I know that I am young and naive but I feel that at this age I could meet the love of my life and get married. So I asked out a friend of mine, and things are going okay right now. I think that every relationship needs to be taken very seriously though. Dont date in the way that a typical high school relationship is portrayed, but I try to take it more serious and to treat it as an adult relationship.
Idk, just my .02$ Feel free to tear apart!
"Girlfriend" doesn't mean anything specific enough for this discussion. I had a girlfriend when I was in kindergarden, but my relationships with her wasn't at all the same as what my cousin shared with the girlfriend he had two months before marrying her, and his relationship wasn't comparable to the cute couples who go to prom together and giggle and talk about the newest Harry Potter book.
Therefore, some kinds of girlfriends are a great idea for some people, and others are not so much. It just depends what meaning you attach to the word.
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At age 14, people think their relationships are serious, but in reality most of the time it's really silly and they make too much drama for themselves. It's best to wait at least til you're sixteenish, or until you're not stupid.
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Who says you sixteen and eighteen year olds aren't silly to the couple married for forty years~?At age 14, people think their relationships are serious, but in reality most of the time it's really silly and they make too much drama for themselves. It's best to wait at least til you're sixteenish, or until you're not stupid.[/b]
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True, but i've noticed a vast difference in maturity levels between 13 to 15 and 16 to 18 year olds with dating. With exceptions of course.Who says you sixteen and eighteen year olds aren't silly to the couple married for forty years~?[/b]
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Yea the emotional growth from 13-18 is by far, I would say, the greatest change for any 5 years. Point being that at the age of around 16, and this of course depends on each person, you are able to take them more seriously.
I agree completely. o_oNo. "Girlfriends" are "Girlfriends" because you're unsure if you want to spend the rest of your life with them. "Engaged couples" are people who feel that they might spend the rest of their lives together.
Suggesting that relationships must orientate themselves towards marriage is a simple scare tactic that pastors will tell young children so that they don't run around at age 14 and have petty little puppy love. Relationships naturally occure amongst young children as their finding out what these new feelings are; they will paddle the waters a little bit, etc etc. This is normal, this is what's meant to happen. If you spend your adolescence being a child then you're not really functioning properly within the Western construction of an adult self and you'll find some hard time at the end of that, relationally, personally, financially, etc.
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I think that's a really good point, there should be nothing inherently sinful about having a girlfriend at 12, 13, 14 but it should be kept as a non-physical relationship.[/b]
yeah but a kiss or 2 won't hurt anybody right?
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