how young is to young in dating. their is this girl in my school and i kinda like her but we are 3 yrs apart. and she's in 8th grade. idk. wut do you guys think. i'm a junior so. i'm open to comments. u won't hurt my feelings if you have something on your mind u wanna share.

A simple guide is "your age, divided by 2, plus 7"

So assuming you are 15 or 16, so don't date anyone below 14.5 or 15.

Are you serious here? So if I'm 60, I can date anyone 37 and up? Or if I'm 100, then anyone 57 and up? Or if I'm 30, anyone 22 and up? This seems arbitrary to me.

Pray about it...read about it...etc. I myself have decided not to date, but to wait for the Lord to reveal to me when I am ready, and who I should marry.

Artist.

the age difference is a little big for hischool

In reality age doesn't matter for love, what probably matters most are what her parents think about it.

That small of an age difference would be no problem.

Honestly, though, the Biblical perspective is that you shouldn't start dating until you are ready to get married.

I read in an article recently that unless you can picture yourself happily married a year from now, then you are in no position to be dating. So unless you like the idea of being married while in high school, drop the idea of dating.

The purpose of dating is to ultimately end up married. Dating is not meant to be something fun to do just to fill some time on the weekends. Dating just for fun ultimately ends up hurting one of both of the parties involved...so while the advice to wait until you are ready to get married may sound extreme, but it is for your own protection.

I know what it's like to be in high school and see other people around you dating, and wanting to be dating someone also. Maybe even just to have a girlfriend so you look cool.

However, now looking back I am very glad that I did not date in hs. I can see all the pain and drama it caused my friends, and I believe I am much better off having avoided that. Plus, I completely avoided the physical temptation that could have been presented by having a girlfriend.

Here is a link to a good series of articles that I think every Christian guy ought to read talking about how the Bible says we should go about dating. I only wish I had read it sooner than I did!

http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001401.cfm

I never date a girl w/out the intention of one day marrying her. that doesn't necessarily mean in the next year or while i'm in high school or college but still with every intention.

idk wut her parents would think of it. i'm 16 and she's like 13.5. give or take a month.

the purpose of dating can also be to spend time with a person youre attracted to and care for. you dont need to plan on getting married. dating in hischool can give you important experiences that would help to improve the next relationship youre in.

dating an eighth grader as a junior though... i think a 2 year difference should be the max

I think if you truly feel a desire to be with this girl then age isn't really a factor. If she and her parents are okay with it, then go for it. There can be a lot of pressures in highschool, so just don't date because you think you should to "fit in". Only date someone for the right reasons.

Yeah, I agree with you. Thanks fro the link btw, it's helpful. I don't plan on dating anytime soon (I know I'm not ready) but I definitely want to be prepared when the time comes. I think the part that hit me hardest was that the man takes all the risk...I think I might have trouble with that part.

Later,

Artist

Quoted for truth.

Honestly it sounds to me like you are taking things quite seriously. Just be friends and don't worry about it. Nobody "needs" a girlfriend or boyfriend, at least at this age. The moment you start getting serious with girls is when everything starts going down the drain. If you become closer later on, great, if not, don't worry about it - God will bring you someone better suited for you and you'll be glad He did.

As harsh as it sounds, you're both too young and inexperienced to be dating or to know what it means to have a meaningful relationship. At this age you just need to sit back and enjoy your life without worrying about having someone to hug up with/tend to.

This post has been edited by Dr. BaconStein: Nov 1 2009, 03:55 PM

Just wait for someone better.

I think there's kind of a 2 year "grace period." Unless you are at different levels of schooling I would say only like 1 year. So according to me, if you're in your freshman year of high school, you could date (without it being creepy) an 8th grader, a sophomore, or a junior. A sophomore, you could date a freshman all the way up to a senior, same with Juniors, and seniors could date sophomores up to college freshman I suppose. I guess that's just my personal opinion.

I agree with a lot of the people up here that are telling you to wait a little bit. The idea of simple social dating is rough, and I don't believe that it is what God intends us to do with our lives, even though He can use those circumstances for good. Spend some time praying about it, and seek some guidance from some of your older Christian friends, and your parents.

You should never date anyone under 15 imo

Besides with her being 13(1/2) you're in a completely different place then she is. That and you're in High School and she's still in Middle School.

Wait a few years and if your still interested then go for it. But until then I'd advice against it.

Wait a year so that you're both in high school.

some of my thoughts:

Only date when you are actually able to drive your date where ever it is you are going lol works for both guys and girls.

OP - wait until she's in high school, fo serious.



He's serious, that's a legit rule. And of course it's abritrary, all rules about how old you should be when you date are arbitrary.

To be quite honest, I think age is just a number....after a certain point though.

I'm 17, and am single, never dated. I guess I've not met anyone who's really caught my attention yet, so I figure, why bother going through the motions with someone who I'm not entirely captivated by? If you are totally consumed by a person, like....completely sure they're worthy of dating, I guess no age is too low. But from my point of view...I'd assume both parties should be at least 15 or 16...It just seems like people start maturing more quickly around this age than any period below....just thoughts from me. take it or leave it

Girls have cooties. You don't want to date them. Run away!

Quoted for truth.

That is all.

I think it really depends on your age. If you are 16-19 then two years sounds reasonable. If you are 20-24 then 3 years sounds normal. After that it really depends on your taste, if you are 25 and like to go out and have fun all the time then a 21 year old may be good for you. The older you get the less significant age becomes to society.. after 18 the law doesnt care.

Yeah, it depends really on the personality.

But legally you cannot date a person that is younger than 16.

(If you are older than 15 yourself)

This post has been edited by Faithful Kevin: Nov 15 2009, 12:35 PM